Hello all,
Baby no 3 is due in September. We are 100% sure on a name for a girl - Esther, and we will use the nn Hetty when she is a baby (obviously beyond that she can decide for herself).
We have literally no boys names, apart from one, which we agree on. The one name is William. We would probably use Billy as an nn, at least when he was little, but would want William on the b/c.
Dilemma is as follows. A really close friend from a few years ago, who is dd's godmother, said years ago that she would use William for her first-born son. She got married in 2008, and we all assumed they would have babies soon after (this was the plan). I strongly suspect fertility issues, but I have not asked, as I don't feel it is for me to ask, and, anyway, we have seen a lot less of them over the past few years, although always have a nice time together when we do meet up.
They are reasonably local, although any future children of theirs would not attend school with mine, as they are about 25 mins drive away, and in a totally different part of the county. I don't think friend would use Billy as a nickname anyway, as it is not really her style.
Should I a) not use William as it's "her" name.
b) use it without consulting her.
c) ask her how she would feel if I used it?
This baby, although very much wanted, is very much unplanned. I wonder if this would just be too much of a kick in the teeth for her. But then, for all I know, friend might have gone off William years ago.
Aaaaargh! I really don't know what to do. I really don't want to hurt my friend, but would be really upset to not use this name, and she then goes on to have a baby boy and calls him something else entirely! It's just such a difficult conversation to start!
Would appreciate your thoughts.