What happens if...

[Fifi2406]

You and your partner have the total opposite taste in names ...say old granny chic/pretty names and ahem chavvy/ghetto made up names? Who really gets to decide and how did you pursued them? (force)

You just keep going until you find one acceptable to both. Left to just me our 3would have had totally different names.

I think it would take a pretty disfunctional couple to not be able to find a compromise or settle on at least one name out of the thousands of names in the world no matter how different their tastes are I agree! :)

It was your first post MummyBurrows....and your next post was FAR to long and badly structured for me to be arsed reading. I think your use of U for you did annoy me and yes...I picked on you partly because of that.

If you can write a post with paragraphs that's as long as your last then you can use YOU rather than u.

I'd was dysfunctional and had the final say. I'd have have carried a lifetime's resentment if I'd had to give my child a name I only vaguely liked just for the sake of being unfeminist or selfless or whathaveyou.

But, and I must make this very clear before anyone jumps on me from a great height, but, I'm not telling anyone else to do as I would. I'm just answering the OP's question.

I think you've got to keep looking until you find a name that you can both live with, even if you both end up compromising a little.

The only way that doesn't involve compromise is to have 2DCs and each have a final say, or simply toss a coin. I am glad that we just kept going until we got there with a compromise.

Hyphenate, e.g. Martha-Chardonnay

stands well back out of range

I agree with whoever said that if you keep looking then you'll eventually find something that you both love. Me and my OH disagreed on names for ages but we finally found some common ground. I'd have liked different names more, as would he, but it matters to us that we both like the eventual name. I think that should matter to everyone unless there is a very deep set reason why they want something in particular i.e. family tradition, some special significance or whatever. Even then maybe you can have a variation of the same name or have a hyphenated name i.e. turning "Mary" into "Mary-Beth" or something. There are ways around these things!