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DH worried DD may be rather thick set and a pretty name would not suit her!!!

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Madamecastafiore · 13/04/2013 09:36

Right, have no idea if expecting DD or DS but we have a whole raft of boys names we like.

Girls names I like are:

Daisy
Florence
Kitty
Polly
Poppy
Claudia

DH likes Gabriella and keeps saying all my names are pretty names and if daughter is thick set like DH then a pretty name will be odd.

Surname is a colour and about the 3rd most common name in the world!

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sweetkitty · 13/04/2013 19:57

I hate thick set does it just mean fat?

A beautiful little baby is not thick set and she'll grow into a lovely toddler, girl and teenager and who cares if she's a bit bigger than average is your husband going to say "just as well we didn't call you Grace cos you don't have any if it"

Name your daughter a NAND you both love

KittenOfDoom · 14/04/2013 15:20

Can you not be dignified if you're dainty then?

That's not what I said.

Also thick-set is not the same as fat. A thick-set person may not carry any excess fat. I am sure we have all met people who are just large: tall and big-boned. (They may also be fat, but not always.) Women of this type are sometimes described as Junoesque.

blueshoes · 14/04/2013 15:54

I view thick-set as being either fat, big-boned or stocky. None of these are perjorative, just descriptive.

If a girl had a body shape like this, it would jar if her name is Willow or Twiggy. I see that OP's dh as a valid point.

I suspect people on this thread who bristle at the term 'thick-set' have weight or self-perception issues themselves.

pinkyredrose · 14/04/2013 15:57

I suspect people on this thread who bristle at the term 'thick-set' have weight or self-perception issues themselves.

oh really? That's quite a leap to conclusion.

TigerSwallowtail · 14/04/2013 16:15

I like your dh's suggestion more than your names sorry, although his reasoning is a bit strange Confused

TigerSwallowtail · 14/04/2013 16:16

And no blue, no weight or self-perception issues here Hmm.

LynetteScavo · 14/04/2013 16:22

Either tell him to sort himself out, or call his bluff and start suggesting old Eastern block female shot-putter type names:

Helga
Olga
Hilda
Grin

Although Gabriella is very nice.

KittenOfDoom · 14/04/2013 20:03

I agree with blueshoes.

ZolaBuddleia · 15/04/2013 10:52

Both me and my DP are overweight, but even if we weren't we would still be 'thick set'. Hefty, I'd call it. Grin I don't think your DH is being unkind or weird in any way, it's right that you should consider whether a girl's name works on all appearances. Calling a whopping great heifer like myself Pixie would be horrendous!

I don't think any of your names, including Gabriella would be comedic if your DD turns out to be sturdy. I'm least keen on Daisy as it feels like a name that doesn't age as well as the others.

DonkeysDontRideBicycles · 15/04/2013 11:25

Well that's honest, it could work out that way, maybe not something like Pixie then but I don't think Gabriella is too ethereal or fey to be given to a well-nourished, strapping girl.

DonkeysDontRideBicycles · 15/04/2013 11:26

Oh ignore me read quickly completely missed point!

DonkeysDontRideBicycles · 15/04/2013 11:27

Start again:
From your list, Florence and Claudia might be safer bets than flower names or Kitty or Polly.

LizaRose · 15/04/2013 11:38

My DH could be described as "thick set", we have 3 DC one of whom is short and chubby, one like a beanpole and one average build. You never know what you're going to get. And children become their names in time.

MummyBurrows · 15/04/2013 11:48

Thick set can mean one of 2 things-large in the overweight/fat sense or large in the stocky/big boned/tall sense....OP doesn't state which term is meant by "thick set" so we are making our assumptions on the meaning in question by what we most associate the term to mean. Some instantly think fat,others stocky. Personally I instantly think fat but not so naïve to think it couldn't be meant as stocky.my instant thought on the meaning of the term doesn't mean myself or others have weight issues (I'm a size 8-10!) So that was a pretty silly comment/assumption to make blueshoes...

If op means stocky/big boned/tall then all the names suggested are fine,but IF she means it in the overweight/fat sense then I personally think Gabriella is a poor choice of name because it will get shortened to Gabby and will open the dd up to bullies/insults at school and nobody wants that for their child.xx

HerrenaHandbasket · 15/04/2013 12:37

Maybe you should call her Willow Mildred or something. You know, so she's covered either way Hmm

Your DH is being a bit silly!

YoniShapedLoveBox · 15/04/2013 13:07

Florence is the best one OP.

blueshoes · 15/04/2013 22:26

Mummyburrows: "Personally I instantly think fat but not so naïve to think it couldn't be meant as stocky.my instant thought on the meaning of the term doesn't mean myself or others have weight issues (I'm a size 8-10!) So that was a pretty silly comment/assumption to make blueshoes.."

You have spectacularly missed my point. You are not bristling at the word "thick-set" are you? So my comment about potentially having weight issues does not apply to you. In any case, someone does not have to be fat to have weight issues (not saying you do, in case you jump to conclusions again). Sometimes it is quite the opposite.

MummyBurrows · 15/04/2013 22:58

Why would it mean that anyone has weight issues though?that is my point. I wasn't saying ur comment was specifically aimed at me,I was trying to make the point that "bristling" or not about the term "thick set" doesn't mean anyone on here has weight issues so can't see why u would say something that,that's all,not having a go,just think it was a silly thing to say...I know that it doesn't matter what size u are it is possible to have weight issues and b unhappy with ur body image,I've been there myself.xx

KittenOfDoom · 15/04/2013 23:02

I know a couple who are like Hagrid and Madam Maxime Grin Chances are their children are not going to be tiny waif-like creatures.

blueshoes · 15/04/2013 23:57

Ah mummyburrows, so you DID have weight issues then ... sorry to hear that but it sort of proves my point.

MummyBurrows · 16/04/2013 01:07

Weight issues,no,body image,yes (short and very slim-size6/8-with big boobs-natural dd's-bt they looked fake until I went up a dress size and became more "in-proportion"). I didn't really like being told i looked like a barbie doll or that I had fake tits coz nobody would believe me that they were real!...So not quite right ;) xx

OkayHazel · 16/04/2013 01:53

Is it a legitimate concern though - are you both Viking sized?

If you're not any more likely than the rest of us to have an Olympic women's shotputter for a child, don't worry about it.

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Madamecastafiore · 16/04/2013 02:04

DH is just over six foot and weighs about 14 stone I think. He runs 10 miles 4x a week but is getting a tummy, rest of him is perfectly adequate as 40 odd year old men go.

I am 5'7" and size 12, am apple shaped but work my hardest not to end up like a ball on sticks.

So unlikely that dd would be a gigantic child. DS is just not very delicate and can look a bit chubby inbetween the shooting up phases but he weighs a bloody tonne. I haven't been able to lift him for about 3 years.

Dd is tall, nearly as tall as me but skinny as a rake but DH no her father.

So unlikely another dd will be manhoodive but think DH so excited about finally having another child that he wants to cover every base and make sure her name really suits her.

By thick set he means more set like a prop forward than a ballerina.

Thanks for all your comments about the names. I still like Kitty but nothing has bowled me over in the girls names department.

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nooka · 16/04/2013 03:35

Seems like a reasonable concern but it makes his name choice a bit surprising as it's the most 'pretty' of the list. I'd say with a bit of a run of the mill type surname it might be worth choosing something more distinctive so your prospective dd doesn't end up being 'big Flo' just because she's slightly larger than another Florence (I had a big Hannah and little Hannah in my class at school, which didn't make either of them very happy).

Sounds like you both need to find some more names until the right one jumps out at you. I like elegance for girl's names with a couple of nn options depending on what sort of character they turn out to be, so Elizabeth could be a tom boy Liz/Beth, or a sweet Betty/Elsie or a elegant Elizabeth as an example.