It turns out that I have nothing to worry about, but i have been pondering what might have been and wondered what others thought re: the etiquette involved in this particular situation.
DP and I are expecting our first baby at the end of the month. We chose not to find out the sex and so have been having fun coming up with girls and boys names. BIL and SIL announced they are having their 2nd DC a few months after us. With their first they found out the sex and the baby had a name pretty much as soon as they had their 2nd scan. Their choice. I knew they would want to find out the sex of their 2nd baby, but was kind of hoping they would not name the baby before we had ours, but of course knew it was a possibility they would given previous form. So I've been waiting to find out and lo and behold they have already chosen and publicly announced the name. Thankfully it is not a name that is to our taste so there is actually nothing to worry about. I just wondered what people thought about the etiquette in this situation - should they have had the good grace to wait and let us name our child first given that our child will be born first, or is it their prerogative to pick and announce a name ahead of ours? As I said it is kind of irrelevant because their chosen name is not on our list, but I can't help but wonder how I would feel if they had picked our favourite.