BJ initials - just how bad would it be?

[pinkandstripey]

I'm 30 weeks pregnant with dc1, who we know is ds, and dp's surname is very common and begins with J.

Problem is, I'm in love with a name beginning with B :( we do have a list of potential other names, but I'm stuck on this name.

So... Just how bad would it be? I know kids can be horrible, but is this just asking for it??

Stick in and use a middle initial? Kids can be horrible, but realistically the real stupidity will be with teens so less than 10yrs out of a lifetime? If yu are really sure B is the name for you....

Well, it's not done Boris Johnson any harm, but personally, I wouldn't risk it.

I rejected a car that ended in the initials BJ. Who needs that following them around

So really, really dont unless you won't really use the middle name - if you're calling it Bobby Joe then probably no.

I wouldnt.

I wouldn't worry about it. If kids want to be horrible, they'll find something. Anyway there are many worse things in life than BJs, in fact lots of people love them

I have a (estranged) cousin called BJ, as in that is his actual name

But as initials I really don't see it as a problem, I know loads of Ben Jones' etc and none of them have ever been called BJ.

Really fucking bad! At school/ uni age anyway.

Im a bj. It has been mentioned, like, NEVER. Ever.

This is a mumsnet problem. Honestly.

I went to school with two BJs, and one went through uni etc with me too. I don't remember anyone saying anything. It's just too... Obvious? Not really funny? No idea. Maybe it's just because no one says Bj anymore.

Either way I wouldn't give it a a second thought.

No No No. It's not just his contemporaries. Say he wants to be a secondary school teacher or similar? He'll be signing his initials all the time and the students will never tire of sniggering! Don't do it to him!

Our surname begins with J and we ruled out any names beginning with B straight away. Shame, as my top girls name behind with B, but I think kids will pick up on it. I would've and I was a nice kid, just a bit is a smart ass.

Thanks all, maybe I'll persuade DP to change his name instead ;)

I ruled all b names out at the start, as I'd have picked up on it. Should have skipped the b names in the book!!

There is no way this matters. People are always talking as if a name can turn a perfectly innocent child into a bully. Bullies are bullies and names have nothing to do with it. Anyway, ever thought of Billy Joel or Ben Jonson as BJs? It's a normal initials combo and if you love the first name you'll regret it if you don't pick it :)

You'll probably find that most of the population is a lot more mature than you realise. My son is a bj (first and middle names) and we've had one comment about it.

Your child could end up red-headed with glasses, in other words there's plenty they could get bullied for. Far better to worry about raising your own children to be respectful, kind and mature than to worry about the children of parents who can't be bothered.

I mean, seriously, is this what people worry about? Talk about having too much time on your hands.

Dh is a BJ - BJT is the full set. Never been an issue for him. Unlike the Ben T I used to teach a very long time ago...

My DS went to nursery with a boy called BJ, yes, called BJ, not a name with B and a name with J. I have no idea if it was short for something else but everything at nursery was labelled BJ. Any other initials and I might have politely enquired of his parents but wasn't sure I could without sniggering .

In my husband's job everyone in minutes at meetings is referred to by their initials, in his very males orientated office I would not want the initials BJ-sorry!

Don't do it! We have a J surname and loved the name Bailey but even with a middle initial it is a massive no no.

Your first and last initial particularly are often used! Many people don't even know my middle name...

My SIL was considering a B name for her son and wrote something on Facebook referring to 'baby BJ' and got no end of ribbing and she's in her 30's.

Please don't do it! X

For a girl - real bad, for a boy less so.