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are you happy with your childs name?

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mumsywoo78 · 05/01/2013 01:56

how common is so called 'baby name remorse'? iv read a few different stories on here but has anyone else ever given there child a name theyve later regreted or not felt quite content with? im goin through this at the moment with my nearly 4mnth old sons name noah.i loved his name through my pregnancy & i didnt have any other name in mind. but i keep getting this niggling feeling its not quite 'right' .if anyone else has been through this did u ever learn to love & accept & be content with the name u chosen? also can anyone suggest any nicknames i could use with noah as i find even saying his name difficult because of the way i feel. please be kind

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aufaniae · 05/01/2013 02:02

Does he have a middle name you could use instead?

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mumsywoo78 · 05/01/2013 02:28

i kinda feel the same about his middle name too! so using that instead of his first name is out of the question for me too. im wondering if id have felt this way whatever id have named him? i had no problems with my first childs name. so why this time? can anyone help me to love the name noah again?

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MoleyMick · 05/01/2013 02:39

Well, I think Noah is beautiful!
My DS's name is a favourite if mine and always has been. My DD was named after DH's mum who passed away and would not have been something I would have otherwise chosen. But it is a pretty, classic name and now she is 10 months she really suits it. When your DS is older I'm sure you'll love it again. Do you actively dislike it now, or just meh about it?

survivingwinter · 05/01/2013 10:42

I spent the first year of ds s life worrying about his name so I understand how you feel. I did actually talk to the registrar about changing it but didn't go through with it. My dd has a more unusual name which can be unisex but now I'm glad I stuck with it. he likes it and I can't imagine him called anything else!

I think Noah is a fine name and in a year or so you won't even think any more about it - he'll just be your Noah!

OddBoots · 05/01/2013 10:47

Oh it's a lovely name, don't worry, he'll grow into it. I think a lot of name worries are based on a little anxiety about general responsibility.

Startail · 05/01/2013 11:14

Noah is lovely, but I sort of understand what you mean.

I'd rather like to have called DD2 by her second name, especially as her first is now ridiculously common.

But it was DH's turn and my choice is his late mothers real name, not the one she used every day.

It is also the name of a Celeb who annoys my family so they didn't like it.

MoetEtPantsOn · 05/01/2013 11:17

Noah is a great name

weegiemum · 05/01/2013 11:23

Noah is a nice name but it always makes me laugh. When dd2 was 2, we were at a soft play and this terribly pushy mum was yelling "Noooooah! Nooooooooooah!" (Noah was clearly ignoring her, you couldn't have missed the yelling!)

Dd2 leant over her juice cup and said "my think that boy gotta big boat and lotsa aminals!". Me and my friend nearly wet ourselves. (in her defence, we do go to church!!).

It's a lovely name but if you really can't go with it, better to change it sooner rather than later. I'm delighted with my children's names, I'd chosen dd1 when I was a little girl, we went slightly more quirky with ds but its always suited him, and dd2 has dh's beloved Grandma's name, who would have loved her so much but sadly died 2 weeks before dd2 arrived.

Sorry for going OT with my Noah story. Dd2 is 9 now and it still makes me laugh!

NotLongUntilXmas · 05/01/2013 11:29

I think Noah is a really nice name.

We all called my DD "The Baby" which then became "Baba" until she was about 3. I couldn't make myself say her name, DH chose it.

I love her name now

DD loves it too and will only allow them to use her full name at school, although we have a few nicknames for her at home.

baskingseals · 05/01/2013 12:49

Noah is a great name, very cool - i think that children do somehow suit their names, especially as they get older. babies do just look like babies, it's hard to see them as individuals.

hope you feel better about this, Noah is a lovely name, it really is, but if it isn't the one for you, you can change it.

yawningbear · 05/01/2013 13:39

FWIW I love the name Noah, it was in the top three for me for DS but DP didn't feel the same. I think it is fab as for a little boy and a much older one too. I did have some doubts about the name that was eventually chosen for DS as it is slightly quirky/old man name and we got some bad reactions when we started telling people but now he is nearly 2 and he couldn't be anything else. As for a nickname folk call their babies all sorts of things completely unrelated to their actual names. Maybe you could try not to stress too much just now but say to yourself that if you still feel the same way in a few months ( which I doubt) then you could think again about whether you need to change it?

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bananaramma · 05/01/2013 15:46

What we think really shouldn't matter imo. If you're not happy with Noah, change it. It is very easy before age 12 months.

Thankfully we have different tastes - choose a name YOU love and if it isn't Noah, then don't feel bad about changing your mind - it is fine to change it.

Kaekae · 06/01/2013 15:26

I have only just started to regret my five years old sons name because I hear it EVERYWHERE now, his name is Oliver and they're everwhere! Noah's a good name, another one which is fast becoming popular.

TheFallenMadonna · 06/01/2013 15:33

I adore my children's names. I feel positively smug that I chose them! Now, I'm sure they are not everyone's cup of tea, but that's not a problem. When my DD was very small, her name seemed too big for her, but I knew that she would grow. And she did, and it's perfect.

RudolphsNoseInMyXmasStocking · 06/01/2013 15:47

Almost 16 years on I am still not thrilled with dd2 name Can't understand why her dad wouldnt agree to calling her my choice of name. . . . Tuesday (blame an episode of Home and Away when she was about four weeks old. . .)

Wishfulmakeupping · 06/01/2013 15:53

I like Noah very cool name.
rudolph what did you call yOur dd out of interest?

GoldPlatedNineDoors · 06/01/2013 15:54

Its took me a while to settle into dds name, even though Ive loved it since before she was even considered.

However she is one and totally suits it and it fits her now. She has a prettier middle name, but it would be odd if that was her first name as she just isnt dainty, which I think her MN is.

ladymariner · 06/01/2013 16:00

I knew what I was going to call ds from the minute I found out I was having him....dh said I was mad but I did, I just knew I was going to have a boy and what his name was going to be!

Would have been stumped if I'd had a girl

RudolphsNoseInMyXmasStocking · 06/01/2013 17:03

Wishful - then DH chose Lucie-Ann. Pretty enough name etc - just not my type of name lol. oddly enough I had no problem choosing our other two daughters' names!

babyblabber · 06/01/2013 20:36

I have a Noah and I ADORE his name. Only thought of it when pregnant and I just think it's the most wonderful boys' name ever, so much so that I worry about finding another boys' name if we ever have another son! I did get annoyed when it shot up in popularity the year after I had him (in Ireland) as one of the reasons we chose it was it was so original.

I know how you feel a bit though. I always wanted a Sophie, ever since I was a child myself but it's so so popular now and DH wasn't mad on idodo we went for Sophia. Obviously very close but she's only 6 months & sometimes I look at her & think she should be Sophie. Am learning to love Sophia though so it happens less and less.

I think these days we spend so much time deciding on a name when pregnant & discussing so many possibilities that after the event there can be a bit of a wobble as the deed is done. Give it time & you will love it again!

Hopeandbluebells · 06/01/2013 21:05

My mum wasnt happy with my name when I was a baby- she and my dad are from 2 very different cultures and so found it difficult to agree on anything they both liked as they eah wanted something from their own culture. My mum got her way with my older sister on the condition that my dad got to name the next one. So I ended up with a fairly uncommon name from my dads culture and my mum couldn't argue even though she wasnt keen she loves it now though, it started growing on her after a few months.

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mumsywoo78 · 07/01/2013 00:36

thanx 4 all your comments.survivingwinter i have also thought about changing his name but couldnt go through with it&theres no names i really like anyway so i would prob feel the same if i changed it anyway or maybe even worse. my older child loves the name noah &would be heartbroke if i changed it. im just hoping in time the anxiety im feeling will go & il be able 2 use his name. but this name issue really has put a downer on things 4 me&spoilt my enjoyment of my gorgous boy.

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