serious name anxiety

[mumsywoo78]

my baby is almost 3 mnths old iv named him noah which i loved when i was preg but im now suffering serious anxiety over wheather its the 'right' name even though i so want it to be.i feel its affecting my relationship with my baby&i have not bonded as well as i should with him.iv seen HV&doc &been prescribed citalopram 10mg which iv been taking for almost 3wks now its kinda taken the edge of the anxiety but it is still there especially 1st thing in the morning.has any1 else suffered like this over their babys name? i feel if i was to change his name it might make matters worse&il regret it. i just want 2 b content with my babys name &start enjoying him. i was fine when i named my 1st child 4yrs ago. im very sensitive at the moment over this so please be kind!

I think it's a lovely name - in fact I'd have liked to call my DS either Noah or Moses - but we went for a name that reflects our ethnicity.

I suspect your anxiety about your choice of name is a symptom of your current mental health. 3 months is often the hardest time - the effects of sleep deprivation have built up but your baby still needs your constant attention and you have another DS to look after too.

Once he's sleeping for longer and able to sit up and eat toys by himself for 20 mins life will start to become easier for you.

I don't have experience of citalopram or similar, but I'm sure your GP will be more than happy to see you again.

I wouldn't choose the names I did for my children again - both of them are known by abbreviations and have several different spellings. Funnily enough, DD, who's 16 told me yesterday that she loves her abbreviated name!

Noah is a lovely lovely name.

I think probably feeling so anxious is making you worry about the name rather than the name making you anxious?

Look after yourself and try not to worry about the name as its beautiful. When you feel a bit better you can think about it again, it's not irrevocable.

Just concentrate on looking after yourself, and enjoying little Noah.

It's a lovely name. Babies tend to 'grow into' their names over time.

You're not feeling great at the moment so the anxiety you're feeling regarding his name is probably linked to that.

Noah really is a lovely name OP. I hope you feel better soon.

It's a great name! Perhaps you should invent a simple nickname (not based on Noah) to use while he's a baby around the house. Something like petal - but for a boy! Pidgeon? Or if he's always talking, chatterbox. No, but you get the idea!

I LOVE the name Noah!

Noah is a great name.

Is there another name you're thinking of and prefer? If there is maybe you ought to just change it? But if not then as others say it could be that your anxiety is focusing on this one thing. I suffer anxiety and it totally influences the way you think, indecision and the thought that you can't believe in your own decisions is a big part of that I find. It's an exhausting place to be at the best of times.

I have experience of citalopram by the way. It has helped me during difficult periods without completely masking "me" in the process. I hope you feel better soon x