If you persuaded your dh into a name, did he later resent it?

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My dh not convinced by my year choice name but doesn't hate it and is coming round to it. I think if I persist he'll agree to it. I don't want him to hate the name or be annoyed once baby is here though and if he would say anything he liked himself I'd happily consider it but he doesn't say any he likes. If you persuaded your dh into a name how did it work out in the end.

Btw, he says he doesn't dislike the name per se, just that maybe it is a little twee and could be a bit posh and lead to bullying.

If he doesn't dislike the name per se, perhaps you could do some research into whether the name is genuinely considered twee/posh these days, to put his mind at rest? There are lots of popular names amongst children which when I was growing up would have been considered ridiculously posh, but these days nobody bats an eyelid (Hugo, Felix, Sebastian, Gabriel etc). Perhaps check on the internet how many babies with the name you have in mind were born last year so you can reassure him?

FWIW my XH insisted our DCs were given first names I absolutely detest. There was no way we could reach a compromise, so eventually they were given said first names on the understanding that they would always be known by their second names. Decades later I still hate their first names, it has caused no end of problems at airports/hospitals/schools etc and the DCs are embarrassed by them. I should never have been coerced into it.

I think it's back to the drawing board.

You need to choose names you both like equally, not have one person pressurising the other into something they don't particuarly like.

This should be an enjoyable venture for both of you, not a battle of wills.

First not year

Other way round here. Dh persuaded me to use a name I wouldn't necessarily have chosen for ds2. Took me a while to get used to it (6 months ish) but now it really is 'him' and I've no regrets.

I chose ds5's name. Dh didn't like it and said no, and to any other names I came up with. I told him to think of names he liked, he came up with nothing. Ds5 was born and still had no name so we agreed on my first choice name, and dh was fine with it. Not that he had much choice as he didn't come up with anything else! Ds5 has always suited his name IMO, and dh likes it now.

I'm just glad I never had a girl as I hate the only girls name he chose and he was insisting we use it!

DH chose DD's name. I wasn't convinced at all. 7 months on, it absolutely suits her and I have no resentment at all.

My dh powered through with his choice of name for dd2 after the birth. I don't and never did not like it but I wouldn't have chosen it and I do have regrets. She's nearly 6.

I was never keen on dd2's name - just gave in to dh cos he vetoed all of mine and it is the only one he thought of himself. Six years on it still irritates me that she does not have a name I love. Wish I had been stronger and gone back to the drawing board with a new list. Having said that dh would not care less if it was the other way around - all depends how laid back your dh is.

I persuaded dh on our dd's name and he got his first choice as her middle name. There isnt a week that goes by where he doesn't say I wish we'd called her........ She's 2 now. And I hate to say it but I think he was right....

The name I absolutely loved, DH was initially warm to but then went off, and all the way through to my due date I was secretly hoping he'd come round to it, but he didn't.

I did feel disappointed that he ruled out a name he'd initially liked, but to be fair I didn't like any of his suggestions and wouldn't have accepted any of them, except one which I quite like but is very popular at the moment.

DD is called by my second choice of name which luckily DH liked - otherwise she'd still be nameless I think!

Ooh, threads like this always unsettle me - I'm scared of picking the wrong name for my next DC and regretting it! Before coming on MN I believed you grow to love the names you call your children because they are their names, provided you haven't given them names you've never liked - they've got be names that you at least felt at the time were ok-ish. I can't imagine not liking your DC's name/s, that's really bad.

I think you have both got to agree on the name. There are hundreds out there, you can find one you both like (if not love).