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Speech impediment concerns

23 replies

roundynotsquary · 04/09/2012 22:40

I had a lisp as a child though fine now. Is my child therefore likely too? Should I avoid all S and soft C names?

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LemonLovesLilac · 04/09/2012 23:44

I think you should possibly contact your gp regarding wether it is hereditary....regarding avoiding all S and C names unless you absolutely adore a name beginning with one of these letters then maybe it would be best...it would be awful if you could not pronounce your own name properly. I know a Robbie who cannot pronounce his r properly and it ends up as wobbie!!

survivingsummer · 05/09/2012 13:34

Probably depends on the reason for the speech difficulty as to whether it is hereditary. DD has a pronounced lisp but because she has co-ordination problems which were not foreseen. Fortunately she only has one S to deal with and not in her first name!

Agree with the poster above about erring on the side of caution unless you are in love with a particular name and it means you can't use it.

MolatovBomb · 06/09/2012 10:13

I have a lisp which I had speech therapy for as a child. It's not as pronounced now (I'm 29) but if I forget how to correct my lisp, it is definitely there (it's made by the shape of my upper left-hand teeth and the way my tongue moves against them when I speak).

Concequently, I've avoided names with 's' or soft 'c' sounds.

DD1, aged 3.7yo, has a mild lisp. I don't know if it's hereditary. It's cute and I'm not going to take her to speech therapy.

amck5700 · 06/09/2012 11:08

Molatov, you'd seriously leave your child with a speech impediment that could be fixed cos you think it's cute?

I am not sure whether it is likely to be hereditary Op but I think most sounds can now be fixed by speech therapy but only after certain ages. My boths who both have names starting with a C (but K sounding) and containing an R could make neither sound when they were little but both fixed before they started school. The youngest with 1 session of ST. They wouldn't work on R until they were 7 as they dont believe any therapy is effective until that age and mostly rights itself before then, which it did.

amck5700 · 06/09/2012 11:09

meant both my sons!

PandaWatch · 06/09/2012 14:25

I thought mild lisps in children were very common due to their speech still being in development, their mouths and tongues growing, loosing teeth etc?

I had a mild lisp but had grown out of it by the time I was about 7. (Not suggesting that there is never any need for speech therapy btw).

amck5700 · 06/09/2012 14:28

Panda, that was definitely our experience, I think there are rough ages that a child should be saying particular sounds by - I believe that R is about 7 and think that K is about 4ish and if you are worried you can always asked a health professional and self refer to speech therapy if required. i would be wary about giving your child a name that you yourself couldn't pronounce properly but i wouldn't try to second guess what letters your child might struggle with.

seeker · 06/09/2012 14:29

No th names if you live in Kent- ds thought his friend's name was spelled Efan for ages!

Oh, and not taking anchild to speech therapy because their lisp is cute is bonkers. And I am an ex- lisper who would have killed for somebody to do something about it until I trained myself out of it at the age of 12.

MolatovBomb · 06/09/2012 16:33

amck5700 I can do without the completey incorrect judgement on a discussion forum from an individual such as yourself who knows nothing about the degree of my child's lisp.

It is not a speech impediment.

Re-read my post and you'll cleary see that I said it's a mild lisp.

MolatovBomb · 06/09/2012 16:38

And, I was actually trying to help the OP by offering friendly advice. Like, a lisp isn't the end of the world. I get really annoyed by arsey posts like yours amck which are based on mis-readings and assumptions.

LadyMargolotta · 06/09/2012 16:40

I had speech problems as a child, and even now, some people don't understand me when I say my own name.

For this reason it was imperative for me to choose easily pronounceable names for my children, in particular with no 'R'.

brandysoakedbitch · 06/09/2012 16:43

A mild lisp is NOT a speech impediment. Lots and lots of preschoolers have a mild lisp as it is often to do with the shape of the mouth. teeth etc as they develop. The overwhelming majority of them just grow out of it in time. My little boy lisps a bit (he is 3.9) and i think it is really cute too. I had a lisp and mostly got past it will elocution lessons and only do it a bit when I am tied: my DH thinks it's cute!

amck5700 · 06/09/2012 16:44

DD1, aged 3.7yo, has a mild lisp. I don't know if it's hereditary. It's cute and I'm not going to take her to speech therapy.

Molatov, you'd seriously leave your child with a speech impediment that could be fixed cos you think it's cute?

Molotov - whatever! the OPs question was about speech impediments if that's not what you consider your child's lisp to be then why mention it!!!

amck5700 · 06/09/2012 16:51

Oh and you talk about being judgmental when you have called me a person such as myself and said that I am being arsey. All I did was ask a question based on something that you posted!!!

amck5700 · 06/09/2012 16:54

...and mild or otherwise, if my child had a lisp I would consult speech therapy about it at the appropriate juncture (by that I mean that if she was reaching an age where she would have been expected to grow out of it or if it was concerning her) and not joke about doing exactly the opposite on a forum......however cute it was (and I agree it can be cute in a little one).

KentuckyFriedChildren · 06/09/2012 16:59

I wouldn't worry about it myself. I had speech issues and therapy as a child and still have a lisp (though its less pronounced now) and dd has inherited it somewhat but she doesn't struggle with her speech as I did ( I am also partially deaf and so that was a factor). I didn't know pre-dcs if they would have my issues but it didn't have any effect on the names we chose as any issues can be rectified fairly easily and also there is a high chance that they wouldn't have any problems anyway.

MolatovBomb · 06/09/2012 17:28

Sweet Mary amck I wrote that I had a lisp as a child, which is why I posted here! Have you just selected to misinterpret specific parts of my posts or what? I mentioned my daughter as an incidental part to my original point, meant to comfort the OP.

You are contradicting yourself, too. You attacked me for daring to say that a list can be cute, then agree that it can be cute. Your post implies that I'm some sort if neglectful mother, which is why I've taken such offence and am now defending myself.

Thank-you brandysoaked for speaking such sense.

So flippin' irritating.

amck5700 · 06/09/2012 18:08

I think what you meant to answer to my question was , "No, not seriously", instead you chose to attack me and make it personal. I didn't attack you ever. What exactly did i misinterpret cos i am missing something here.

Where did I imply that you are a neglectful mother? You may be reading into things that aren't there - did I touch a raw nerve or something?

And, after all that, you have managed to ignore the post by seeker that calls you bonkers

MolatovBomb · 06/09/2012 18:36

If all seeker can offer to the debate is "bonkers", I just can't be bothered to answer.

You, however, amck have totally racked me off. To say that you've touched a raw nerve gives your ignorant comments too much credit. I merely think that you're typical of many ignorant people I've encounters here on the Baby Names forum where type faster than your brain can keep up.

seeker · 06/09/2012 20:21

What seeker can and has offered to the debate is the experience of someone who had an uncorrected lisp. But feel free to ignore it- after all I'm sure my mother thought it was "cute" too.

MolatovBomb · 06/09/2012 20:42

This is the last post from me on this subject as I, quite frankly, have better things to do with my time that bicker with idiots.

I'm so sorry, OP, that your thread was hijacked.

amck5700 · 06/09/2012 21:27

right so far I have been called - someone like yourself (whatever that means), arsey, ignorant and an idiot, you've told me that I have misinterpreted you, that I have judged you, that I have attacked you, racked you off and that I have implied that you are a neglective mother. Errrmmm okay, if you say so.

quite frankly if the internet makes you this angry just because someone asks whether you were being serious, then I truly think you need to have a think about that.

If anyone has a right to feel aggrieved here it is first of all the OP and then me imo. If your post was meant to be a joke then fine, but don't start accusing other people of all sorts because they didn't recognise that or didn't think that it was funny.

Both seeker and I have provided information based on our experiences to the OP.

Twonker · 06/09/2012 22:11

I didn't know a lisp could be hereditary. Also what is cute in a 3 year old is, as seeker says, not necessarily cute in a teen or adult.

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