Did you call your dc a name you didn't love ?

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30wks with ds1 (dc2) and we have settled on a name but only because I can't find any that I like more than the picked one , not because I love it. I loved DDs name and still do so I'm finding it hard to just "settle" but it really is the only one I can imagine using .

Dis anyone else use a name that was best od a bit lot type thing and do you get used to it?

Yes, we had no boys names so ompromised on a name which hasn't sat right until the last few weeks (he is not that far off being one) when we have adopted one of the nicknames for the name. It suits him.

We also liked Jude Oliver and Isaac but can't use them for family reasons .

Ah I am biased as I have a Jacob. Also liked Noah but wasn't brave enough to use it as a first name. 2nd DC was going to be Benjamin Noah but ended up being a girl.

I always loved loved loved the name Jacob and still like it. I don't know if I would name him Jacob now tho. It is q popular. But I think it suits him.

Not sure what I would name him if it were Jacob though. Haven't heard or thought of another name I would prefer.

Ilovedaintynuts, I also discovered my DP was stuck in the seventies, he wanted to call DS1 Alan. He also liked Graham and Paul.

I, on the other hand, like names like Jacob, Noah, Joseph, Elliott, which DP hated because of his ridiculous taste in names.

DS ended up with a name which I didn't love, but now I do and I can't imagine him being called anything else.

DP was absolutely set on a girls name, so we went with that for DD. It's not a name I would have chosen if I had been naming her alone. The full version is lovely but a bit of a mouthful so I don't use it much; the shortened version, what she gets called by everyone, I like but I don't love. Its quite a practical name, really, though I know a few people have been surprised that we aren't using the more 'fashionable' (at the moment) shortening of her name.

I'll admit that sometimes, when I think about it seriously, I am genuinely surprised that I have a child called 'X'.

The thing is, though, now it is her. I can't imagine her having any other name at all. And in some ways, because I didn't exactly choose the name myself, it is almost as if it is more her name - as if she was presented to me with the name already attached, if that makes any sense. If it was a name I had loved for a long time I think I might not have viewed it as her name quite as much.

Jacob and Gabriel were on our list, so we might like similar names. The rest of my list (most vetoed by DH!) was, IIRC, Joel, Kit, Henry, Laurence nn Larry, Elliot, John, Peter.

The one we chose was definitely more chosen by DH than me, but I love how much he loves it and it does suit DS.

I'm biased too as a Mum to a Jacob, we couldn't decide on a boys name then heard it and we both liked it, he was born and just looked like a Jacob, still does, love my 3DDs names still do.

Its so hard. Its easy to say "No, hold out for a name you LOVE" but what if one doesn't come up before the baby is here??
I could name dozens of girls but find boys names much more difficult.

pixie you have just described my feelings in a nutshell !!

The problem is when I was having DD her name just randomly came to me one and and I loved it and when she was born I looked at her and knew that was her name . I couldn't imagine her being anything other than a wee Phoebe

But this time Jacob was just a name threw in that I liked and DH didnt so he was coming up with the likes of Noah and Gabriel and I was saying no I prefer Jacob to them - not no I love Jacob and can't imagine anything else . I keep waiting on the name just coming to me and starting to worry that it won't and I'll have to "settle" with Jacob .

Yes, we couldn't agree on a girl's name either time, although DC1 was a boy. Three years later, still couldn't agree on a girl's name. I like family history/personal reasons for choosing names, DH just likes a name or not. Then I realised that MIL's name is an anagram of another very normal name (I also like normal names; DD's name was 50th place last year) DH liked the name, the liked the reason, bit was not too bothered by the name. Ten months down the line I love it because it is DD's.

Yes. I don't particularly like Dd's name. But it was the only one of DH's suggestions that wasnt horrible. I vetoed all his others, he vetoed mine. I still don't love it, I don't hate it though and I can't imagine her being called something else now.

I have a Noah I do really like Jacob too, but DH didn't
With DD's name, we really struggled to find one we both liked, so 'settled' on one when she was 2 days old. The thing is that now (a year later) I love love love it, it is absolutely perfect for her and totally suits her. I would even say I love it more than DS's name, even though it was the compromise name

I also liked Spencer but DH hates it . So then we go back to Jacob .

I think he is going to end up Jacob by default .

Middle names 'By Default'? Unusual...

iheart I think I might really use that !!! Like marvin waitforit erikson !!!

DD1 had a name I loved and had a real family meaning to it. DD2 had a name which I really didn't like- but I just couldn't find another name. It suits her well now, but at the time I felt it was wrong. Then I had twins- DS was perfect, his name was unusual and handsome. DD3 had a name which I didn't like- but I was being fair on DH. He's grown into his name, just 1yr later and I don't know why I was ever against it.