Dilemma..

[Wildwaterfalls]

Here's a tricky one for you...

We settled on a (quite unusual) girls name a while back (dc1 due in about 3 weeks). Now it seems like my brother is seeing quite a lot of a girl with the same name. Although we are close, it is not really 'my style' to pry in his personal life, so don't want to ask if they are going out / whether it is serious.

Would it be a big deal if our baby had the same name as his girlfriend?! I am thinking maybe it wouldn't, and therefore there is no need for me to examine this further...

What do you think?

I think I'd stick with it, but probably give him the heads up that you had set on it before she came on the scene.

I'd stick with it too, my sister called her baby the same name as her brother in laws girlfriend (if that makes sense ) and its caused no bother at all.

I guess it will probably be fine, either if they are just friends, or if they are together and all goes well. A tiny bit worried about what if they are together and then break up in some bad way, or what if I don't like her... But I am sure that is unlikely.

I have three single brothers/brothers in law. If I ruled out every name of the girls they'd seen quite a bit of over the years there wouldn't be a lot left to choose from. I can see why you're nervous, though. I'd warn him first.

I think I'd tell your bro that you had the name in mind before his gf came on the scene; that you love the name but baby isn't named after her IYSWIM. It might be a bit heavy for them both if you announce the name after baby's birth. I dunno: something like too much pressure on their relationship, I think.

HTH,

MammaT

Many thanks, that really helps! Will speak with DB once we have finally finally agreed we are going for this name (sudden last minute wobble)!

hope she doesn't break his heart then!

Yes keep the name. But mention to your DB that coincidentally it was already on your list.