Baby due and dp still reluctant to discuss names...

[nearlymumofone]

... anyone else in this situation? I have my lists of names sorted but trying to pin dp down to discuss them is impossible. Baby is due imminently and I'm worried the first day the baby comes will be spent with us arguing over names, and him bringing up names he likes that he's never mentioned until now.

Anyway- just needed a rant!

Maybe "discussing names" sounds too generalised to him and he wouldn't know where to start. How about you give him a very specific practical task? Ask him to list his top five names for a boy and top five for a girl. Then assuming you like some of them, you will only need to discuss those rather than every name in the book.

I am due in 2 months and since we learnt we're expecting a girl DH won't discuss names. At all. He won't even look at my shortlist.
Sorry, that's not very helpful.

Does he mind what its called? my OH left it to me thankfully, as long as it wasn't ridiculous. he said i had good taste
javotte why won't he discuss girls names

Can you tell him that you are worrying that this might upset you once baby is born and that he doesn't have to discuss now, but can he at least look at your top 5 list and agree that you can choose from those once baby arrives.
If he says no, then he needs to do hos own list ASAP to have his pinion hold any weight!!

Tell him that, if he doesn't enter int discussions, you are calling the baby Popsicle Sweetie Poppins if it is a girl and Crispin Prodnose James if it is a boy. Or some other name you know he will hate.

I understand the frustration OP, my DP also would not discuss names. He was set on meeting our DC and then deciding what name suited the baby. In the end it was actually quite nice as we spent a week getting to know our son and laughing about different names before we settled on his name.

Although I found it frustrating in the end I knew he was excited about the baby so went with the flow. He might not have had a name for a week but it didn't take anything away from my enjoyment of having my beautiful baby.

Good luck for everything

Is he happy about the baby?

Could he feel like he doesn't want to 'jinx' things by naming the baby before he or she is born?

kilmuir he really, really wanted a boy. We already had chosen a boy's name.
I live in France so the baby has to be named at birth.

Oh javotte that's awful. Does he not realise he'll love your dc either way?

How does that rule work? Will they not let you out of hospital until she's named?

Sorry to hear that. He is being a thoughtless idiot. Not your 'fault', its the sperm decide the sex.

Sorry to hear that. He is being a thoughtless idiot. Not your 'fault', its the sperm decide the sex.

When I was expecting ds2, didn't know the sex I had a huge list of baby names, we could only agree on one girls name, and both thought I was having a girl. Then I went into labour at 36 weeks, ended up having an emcs, and baby was a boy. Dh said we haven't got a name, but there was a name I loved, that Dh wasn't keen on but after everything I'd been through very bad labour Dh let me name him and now we both love the name I chose.

Pick a name. Preferably an utterly ridiculous one that you wouldn't ever use, and tell him that is what your DC will be called unless he actually discusses things.

Javotte that's horrible. Tell him to grow the hell up.

poppy you've got 3 days to register the birth, either at the hospital or at the Mairie.
We already have a DS and a DD and DH is a great father to them both. I know he'll be a great father to DD2 too once he meets her. I just wished he'd stop referring to the baby as "he" as if it would make her grow a penis.