Does it bother you when Mumsnetters criticise your name/your dc's name?

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I'm just curious because a lot of people seem to take offence when their name or their dc's name gets negative remarks,and often on a thread that they didn't even start?

Personally I don't care if people hate my name,as I like it.I've no children yet,TTC,but I don't think it'd bother me if I had a child named X,and people said that they didn't like their name,if another poster asked what they thought of name X.

This isn't a thread about a thread btw.I've been pondering this for a while.

Personally I don't think saying that you hate a name,if you've been asked your opinion in the baby names forum is rude. I agree with BackForGood that the best thing about MN is that you get honest opinions.Bland remarks such as 'It wouldn't be my first choice' are almost meaningless,and an honest opinion is far more useful,particuarly as it's the child,not the parent who has to live with the name.

That said I think remarks like they'll never amount to anything take it too far,and I can see why people get tired of the constant 'chav' remarks when ever their dc's name is mentioned.

I'm probably brutally honest.I'll say if I think a name is awful or ugly imho if I think it is,but I can be equally effusive if I love a name. I don't see the point of asking for opinions if the poster is going to have a hissy fit if someone dares to say that they hate the name.

I would say if you don't want to read something you don't like, don't use the forum! I've been honest about names I don't like (sorry to those who love the name Keith!) but I like lots of names so there is usually something in a list I can be genuine about!!

FWIW My dd's name seems to be generally liked but am hoping that's not a sign it will get too popular!! My ds's name has been described as a girls name by some posters before now

Actually I always grin when I think of someone on a thread describing what is ds2's middle name as pointless and if you might as well just call them Boy. It amuses me!

I would like to say no, but just read a thread where DD's name has taken a good old bashing on here. I do feel a bit pouty and confused - why wouldn't people like it?? It's obviously the most beautiful name in the world - why else would I have picked it?!!?!
But then I look at it rationally and remember that we are all different, thankfully... I wouldn't want her to be one of 18 in her class )

To be fair, 'Yoda' is always going to be an unusual choice for a girl.

No, it really doesn't bother me. If we all had the same taste, life would be rather boring! I think there are ways of saying things nicely though. I don't like it when someone asks about a name they really like, only for everyone to tell them how awful, terrible, etc it is.

No, doesn't bother me at all. This is supposed to be the place where people can come for honest opinions about names, so if you don't give that, then what's the point in the whole board??

Although I do have to laugh at the comments my DDs names have been given. I have read threads where my eldest's name (Eloise) has been described as both too chavvy and too posh!?!

Equally, my youngest (Katherine) has been described as classic and beautiful, but also chavvy for beginning with a K.

Each to their own, and we're all coloured by our own individual influences on names, I just like people to say why they like or dislike a name. Something like 'chavvy' or 'shudder' or 'vile' does nothing, but it is better if someone explains why they don't like it - whether it is a personal opinion - they know someone "chavvy with that name" so I can ignore them, or whether it is a good, reason worth remembering (not that I'm having any more children, but I remember that this used to annoy me when pregnant and was asking people their opinions).

It's never happened, but it wouldn't bother me. Horses for courses and all that.

Like survivingsummer I prefer negative comments as I fear for rising popularity.

I do not care if people don't like my dc's names. I didn't choose them for the benefit of a bunch of strangers on the Internet.
But I do very much object to the hideous name class snobbery displayed on baby name threads.
I would object to a thread declaring that no child from a certain background could ever be a productive member of society in any other context.
So why would I shrug at one that just substituted 'working class, 'unemployed parents' or 'parents didn't get any gcses' for 'called Kallem'?

Other than that I don't give a toss if people like a name and certainly wouldn't bother asking opinions before choosing a name. Each to their own and all that but why?

I think there is a fine line between honesty and hurtful comments. Hate does seem a harsh word to use for a name, but I use love quite a lot, so I guess that's just going in the other direction!

I did search my own name on here and didn't get a great range of feedback haha! But I do get compliments from people when they ask my name.

Some names can be a bit cruel, and I think folk do try too hard to be 'different' just for the sake of it ( outside of MN as well ) But each to their own. Has anyone changed their mind due to a mean comment?

It does bother me if dd's name is not liked but I think I'm probably more sensitive about it because she died.
As it is, her name was hyphenated and flowery so goes against the "rules". However, I love it and am glad that we gave her a name that I think was beautiful.
Ds4's name is "common" but not "chavvy"
I do get annoyed by people saying that you shouldn't use an abbreviated name, though. Ds3 has a name which normally would be an abbreviation but I simply don't like the long version and was dammed if he was ever going to be called it. MIL has form for using the long version of a child's name and she wasn't going to get the chance with ds3 that she did with ds1.

Yes, it does even though it shouldn't.

There are some names that I think are very dull and plain but I don't voice my opinion because I don't want to cause offence. I've caused offence on other threads and occasionally been a little rude but for some reason I sit on my hands when it comes to baby name threads.