feel pressured about 'Max'

[deliciouscitrus]

When I was pregnant with DD (now 3), DH and I chose a girls name, which we used, and a boys name, 'Max'.
Now I'm 24 wks pregnant with a boy and everyone keeps referring to baby as 'Max'.
We found out the sex and DH said "There's little Max."
Told Mum we were having a boy and she said "Max?"
PIL said "So will you call him Max?"
Even DD is now calling baby 'Max'.
I like Max, we chose it before. But this is a different baby, a different time. I feel like there's been no choice or discussion.
When I bring up names with DH he makes suggestions that are not serious.
What do I do? Name the child Max? Try and come up with some other brilliant amazing name that DH and I both like and DD can pronounce? Cos that's not very likely.

Maybe suggest to DH that you should have reserve list in case when baby is born he doesn't seem like a Max. We had settled on Leo for a boy but when DS was born it actually just didn't seem right (of course it would have been fine and I sort have wish I'd stuck with it but meh). Congratulations, btw

Your dd does not need to be able to pronounce her brother's name immediately.

If you're not happy with Max(imilian) then I suggest you both continue looking for names until you find one that you both love!

You're under no obligation to use the name Max. Tell people it's too soon to make a final choice and you'll let them know the decision once baby has arrived :)

Thanks :)

The reserve list is a good idea too. Thanks

What other names do you like delicious?

We have a Max but it took us until he was 6 weeks old to finally decide on it! He's now 20 and it suits him as much now as when he was a little one.

I can see though that you want to give some thought to naming 'this' baby - I'd work on a shortlist to chat through with your dh.

I know what you mean Delicious about potential name for 1st baby not being right for baby 2. We were the same.

Tell the family to chill their beans; that was a name for baby 1 if DD was a boy and not for baby 2. Tell them you will let them know the baby's name . . . when he is born. Sorted!