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Would you use someones second choice?

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ALittleBitOfMagic · 27/07/2012 12:40

Last year sil had two choices for dnephew and I really love the one he didn't go with. Would you use someones second choice?

By the way the name is Brodie. Other shorlisters are:

Jacob
Noah
Gabriel

Also like Isaac but it's a surname within the family so looking for something along he same lines.

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DawnOfTheDee · 27/07/2012 12:42

Brodie's lovely. I'd go for it....you don't know if they'll have any more children and if they do they might be girls. Also as had been said before 'no-one owns a name'

Aworryingtrend · 27/07/2012 12:43

Many names will be someone else's second choice. Whatever name you choose someone is bound to say 'oh we were thinking of that name too'. If you like it go for it. I like your other 3 choices too, although Jacob and Noah are very very popular.

squoosh · 27/07/2012 12:45

Remember that her first choice was someone else's second choice. The name isn't shop soiled just because she considered it and then rejected it.

UnnamedFemaleProtagonist · 27/07/2012 12:47

I would use someones 'second choice' yes. I wouldn't however, use Brodie. Your other choices are far nicer.

squoosh · 27/07/2012 12:48

From your list I like Gabriel best. It's lovely.

scarlettsmummy2 · 27/07/2012 12:49

Not fussed on Brodie. Prefer Noah.

minceorotherwise · 27/07/2012 12:53

You need to choose the name you love, regardless of others choices

strawberrypenguin · 27/07/2012 12:54

Hmm tricky, I would usually be the first to say that no one owns a name (and they didn't use it) but my SIL is pg at the mo and I had an unwelcome realisation the other day that I would be irrationally pissed off if they used our second choice (btw I have no idea what names my SIL is thinking of and I wouldn't say anything to her) it might depend on your relationship with them as well (I have a few unresolved SIL issues which probably don't help)

Brodie is quite unique, maybe talk it through with them. Or just use it, they didn't and they will probably forgive you very quickly (if it bothers them)

Sorry that's a bit of a ramble

shimmy0 · 27/07/2012 12:55

Personally I wouldn't use my own sister's second choice if I had a sister. I also wouldn't particularly like it if my sister used my second choice. I would say be a bit more original than that. Plus Brodie for a boy to me is too babyish, he won't be a baby forever.

MammaTonic · 27/07/2012 12:56

I agree with squoosh on two counts: the second choice being someone's first choice and Gabriel being lovely. I don't have any sons but if one ever comes along, he will be Gabriel.

Go with what you like and don't be put off by the 'second choice' idea.

MammaT

shimmy0 · 27/07/2012 12:58

Whoops well it's not your sister, but obviously as you are effectively taking one of your brother's name choices it's the same thing.

DawnOfTheDee · 27/07/2012 12:58

Fwiw I've now gone off our second choice name completely - you're SIL may have done the same. Depending on your relationship with her maybe have a word?

bleedingheart · 27/07/2012 13:00

I think it depends on the relationship to the person whose second choice it is!
Some people would be 'funny' about it.

I much prefer Noah I must say.

I think Brodie is super cute for a baby boy but not a 54 year old accountant. (No offence to 54 year old accountants called Brodie!)

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ALittleBitOfMagic · 27/07/2012 13:33

Thanks for the relies . Not actually brothers baby - it's DHs brothers baby . When she was pg I was very much on team Brodie I didnt really like the choice she went with . Obviously I love my nephew so I love the name now . But I think it was bil that wanted the other name so I just feel a hit uneasy about using it . Plus don't want then to think we are copycats

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shimmy0 · 27/07/2012 14:48

It's simple don't use it then.

honeytea · 27/07/2012 14:56

I wouldn't want to name my second child my second choice name anyway, I'd want to think of a new set of names for them.

youarekidding · 27/07/2012 15:15

I don't get all the 2nd choice names thing myself. X-P and I just had a list of names we liked and decided which one suited us/DS when he popped out!

I would use any of the other names I liked if I had more children - although it would be with someone else so possibly more would be added to the mix.

Just talk to your SIL - say you love Brodie, also the other 3 and if and when a DS is born if it suits him/you would they be offended if you used it - although personally I would say you don't have to ask permission iyswim?

Just an anecdote for you. There's 3 of us friends since secondary. 1 has drifted away but we keep in contact and meet yearly. Me and the other girl are very close but I lived abroad for 6 years so contact was phone/txt/ when I returned to UK. We have 5 children between us. First 3 were born 10 months apart. My DS is the youngest of those 3 and then my friend has a DD 10 months younger than him. Oter boy is 2 months!

BOY1: Oliver (would have been Olivia if a girl)
Girl 1: Olivia (would have Thomas if a boy)
DS (boy2): Tomas (would have been Sophia if a girl)
Girl 2: Sophie

None of discussed baby names and we only found this out since I returned to UK a few years ago and the conversation happened to come up because the 3rd girl was pg again!

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