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Baby names

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Baby Name ideas are you telling?!

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Natnat29 · 13/07/2012 15:37

Hi Am expecting my first on 30th jan at the mo only very close friends/family know, but already the subject of names came up quite quickly. Im protective over telling anyone the name we've picked out for a girl cause i basically have my heart set on it and dont want to hear people's opinions in case it puts my OH off! boy wise i have no clue so that doesnt matter, but basically am interested if you are being honest with people about your name choices?!
Nat

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hypoxia · 13/07/2012 15:39

We were open and honest about the names we'd picked, some people responded strangely (ie my mum, who hates DS2's mddle name) but it didn't put us off.

My brother was weird about his son's name, didn't tell anyone until after they'd registered the birth.

Krumbum · 13/07/2012 15:40

I think I'd tell ppl. It doesn't matter what they think but they can start to see your baby as a real person :)
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Natnat29 · 13/07/2012 15:48

lol its esme, think i will crack and end up telling before but i dont want people to get bored of the name either. I may need to come up with a few 'fake' options to keep people guessing lol ;)

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DharmaBumpkin · 13/07/2012 15:49

We didn't tell, partly because we didn't know the sex, but also just because we wanted it to be a surprise :)

Had definite names for a girl or a boy though, so it wasn't a case of waiting to choose and then tell

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Natnat29 · 13/07/2012 15:50

I think thats the other extreme Hypoxia i cant imagine keeping it a secret until the name was registered!

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CakeBump · 13/07/2012 15:52

I've shared our shortlist with a close friend or two, but haven't really let on which is our favourite...

I haven't mentioned a thing to DM, except for in very general terms, as she is full of opinions and I don't want to hear them! :)

VolAuVent · 13/07/2012 16:44

You ask if people are being "open and honest" about their name choices. But there is nothing "closed" or "dishonest" about choosing to keep this information private! After the baby is born, that is the perfect time to announce their name :)

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Natnat29 · 13/07/2012 16:48

yes thats true! suppose i need a nice way to keep the number 1 choice a surprise. Just know so many people who have had strong and horrible reactions to their name choices! dont get it everyone's taste is different i wouldnt expect to love everyone's names all the time but i wouldnt tell them how horrible i thought a name was if they loved it :)

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wannabedomesticgoddess · 13/07/2012 16:55

We arent telling though Im not sure why. We have picked Erin for a girl and are still choosing between Daniel, Olly or Dylan for a boy. I dont think anyone really would judge those names badly.

I guess Im just worried that PIL will run out and buy personalised things as soon as they find out the sex (MIL gets a bit carried away) and then we will be stuck if we want to change our minds.

MidWeekSlump · 13/07/2012 20:17

We knew what we were having and once we knew the sex told people the sex and the name. So basically announced it's a girl called x.

Once people know you have decided on that name they are less likely to be insulting. Except perhaps mothers. My mother openly said she hated the name we picked, I told her I didn't care and that's where that ended

fanjodisfunction · 13/07/2012 20:29

We didnt tell anyone, I wanted it to be DH's job when baby was born to announce the birth and the name in one go.

MammaTonic · 13/07/2012 21:18

We only told my parents and DHs parents. It was important to us that they liked our DDs names, and meant that we could refer to our unborn babies by name :) Paradoxically, even if parents/in-laws didnt like the names, it wouldn't have put us off.

Everyone else though, had to wait until after the birth.

Congratulations on your pregnancy! You must have just got pregnant as my beautiful second daughter was being born - she was born on April 19th

exoticfruits · 13/07/2012 21:28

We didn't tell anyone before hand.

hiviolet · 14/07/2012 14:41

Like you I had my heart set on a girl's name. Thought people might turn their noses up at it (it's an "old lady" name) so I refused to tell anyone.

With the boy's name, I made the mistake of saying I quite liked Felix, and my auntie went on about how cruel it would be (because of the cat food ) so I wished I'd kept my mouth shut then too!

So, in my opinion, keep it to yourself!

diddl · 14/07/2012 15:11

Never told anyone until after the births-just told them we hadn´t decided.

Pootle78 · 14/07/2012 15:47

Didn't tell anyone with ds, we had a girls and boys name chosen and picked the one we needed when he was born.

Due in 2 weeks, again don't know what we're having and haven't found any names we like so going to wait til it's here. However, to wind people up and keep them guessing we did tell a few people baby would be named after dh's grandparents - Maurice or Bernard for a boy, Ethel or Madge for a girl. It soon shuts them up!!!

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