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Hi all,

DP and I are thrashing out our short list of a girl's names (am due in three weeks) and have come up against a potential sticking point for what is otherwise our favourite name.

The name is Beatrice.

Middle name will be Jane, after one of the grandmothers.

Our surname begins with T, two syllables, and is very 'normal'.

So Beatrice Jane T-

Can you see what we see? Or are we being over cautious??

That would put me off tbh - I would probably add another middle name in.

I wouldn't do it.

What they said, or try a different grandmothers name. Love Beatrice (have one of my own)

What's the problem? Is it the initials?

oowwww but I love it so much! The grandmother's middle name is Elizabeth so could go for Beatrice Elizabeth. But really, how many people are known only by their first two initials...? Her initials would be BJT... Also, its not like she'd be Beatrice-Jane which really would be a problem. She'd mainly just be plain old Beatrice T-.

Sigh. Back to the drawing board maybe.

BJ, is that it? As in blow job? Is that the issue or is my mind too dark?

I see what you mean. Bank cards in the name of Miss B J Thompson or whatever... I prefer Elizabeth to Jane.

i don't get it what's wrong with BJT?

Not BJT yesterday, but Ms Blow Job Thompson.

Really? It wouldn't occur to me that would be a problem. Perhaps the use of initials for this particular act is a current trend (so a passing one), it certainly isn't how I've ever referred to it or heard it referred to - perhaps generational?

Anyway, Beatrice is lovely and was one of my top favourites but DP didn't like it.

It took me ages to work out the problem! Beatrice is lovely!

I wouldn't do it either. But Beatrice Elizabeth Jane T..... is absolutely fine?

I didn't get it either. Don't see the problem. If she's just Beatrice then she's BT, if Elizabeth then she's BET. I doubt that anyone at school (which is presumably where the issue would arise) knows each other's middle name. Most of my friends prob don't know mine. I would use it and not worry. If she does get teased at least it's for something innocuous rather than being picked on for being too tall, short, fat, thin etc

Put Jane Beatrice on the birth certificate but call her Beatrice.

Beatrice Elizabeth Thompson and call her Betty. Job done

lottiegb. I am nearly 40 and this was how we referred to them at school! (Not that I'd ever given one at that age). Thought it was hilarious that my sister's friend called Barney had a Mum who abbreviated his name and middle name and called him BJ! Remember having to explain to my Mum over Sunday lunch why it was so funny . She is in her 60's now, so if you are of that generation...I don't know if it's still current in today's generation now - my kids are not teens.

I wouldn't, but Beatrice Elizabeth T... sounds lovely. I like MrsTrellis's idea of Betty as a nickname - very cute.

No merry I'm the same age as you. Just regional / peer group / sheltered life perhaps.

I thought BJ was the doctor on MASH who wasn't Hawkeye - or was I missing a joke there?

You are not being over cautious. I saw what you meant straight away OP and probably there will be enough people who do for your DD to feel a bit peed off with you for inflicting those initials on her!

It's not just at school but as someone else has said, on bank cards, letters in the post, in the work place - all her life she will have the initials BJ.

Just choose another middle name. Elizabeth is lovely. Or look at your own and DH's grandmothers then you'd have the choice of 4 family names. You might get another chance to use Jane as a mn with a future DD.

Shame, beautiful names, but don't do it. Unless you can insert another name between them. Kids can be cruel, and why give her anything to stress about in later life. I wanted to call ds Benjamin James but didn't for the same reason.