Think I've made a mistake with baby name!

[jasminemay]

I've just registered my newborn baby as Annabelle Mollie but having regrets that it should have been the other way round..my husband admitted a week ago that he thought it should have been the other way round but I felt it was too late to change having told everyone and got presents/cards with Annabelle on..Also Mollie was my grandmothers name and she was born on her birthday-my mum said she really likes Annabelle but I could tell she was disappointed. We had problems deciding name DD2 so was so worried about taking so long this time my husband put me on spot just as she was born to decide-felt Annabelle in the most birth euphoria was more beautiful but now think Mollie is cuter and more fun like my other daughters names.. also would have more meaning. I didn't choose it originally also because our other daughters names end in the "ie" sound and surname starts with a M. My husband thinks the alliteration would have been good and he "loves" Mollie but only likes Annabelle. She's only a few weeks old so don't know whether should just start calling her my her middle name as in time will be forgotten! Driving me crazy..

Just call her mollie but keep the bc as it is.

I think you can go back and change it to the other way around within a certain time period?

yeah, just use her middle name. Loads of people are known by their middle name. She will be Annabelle officially but called Mollie by her friends and family.
I think that's fine.
If you want to change it, you have some time after you've registered don't you?
FWIW, I like both.

My DP is X Y surname, and is only ever called Y.
My step father is called by a name which is not even on is birth certificate, and has been since birth.

Just call her Mollie, it is sounds lovely with all the history behind!

Congratulations BTW!

I think you can call your children whatever you want, despite what appears on the birth certificate. Both my DCs have nicknames which sound nothing like their birth certificate name. Everybody accepts the nickname without question.

I agree with others, just start calling her Mollie, but leave the bc. My parents did this with me.

Thanks for feedback ..My other DDs are Phoebe and Elodie my original thought was too many "ie" endings?

I'd go back get it changed on BC

I've taught many children who are called by their middle name and to be honest it's a bit odd and awkward. When you've done first aid for a child called "Sarah" in class "2b" but your filling out the accident form and there's no such child etc... Not that you should change your child's name just to make things easier for the teaching profession, but surely if you don't like the order you should change it whilst you can!

Hi. I am pretty sure you have the option to change the name on the b c up to a year after registering.
I would change it sooner rather than later. People will understand.
I ummd and red over my ds name and really wish I had changed it after all. It bugs me no end.

Don't let this stop you calling her Mollie if that's what you want. You can change the birth certificate (or not) as others have said.

FWIW I don't think the -ie endings matter much. Could she be Annabelle nn Annie if you'd prefer that?

Or if not just go with Mollie and don't worry about the birth certificate.

I would change it around if that is what you want to do, DP is known by his middle name & it's a pain in the workplace.

Belle? Bella? Anna? Annie? Ella? All nickname options.

Think it over carefully first. But if you prefer it the other way round then change it sooner rather than later. That's what I'd do.

I'm known by my middle name, never been much of a problem tbh.

DP is only ever known by his middle name, apart from for official things IYSWIM. I don't think I even knew it was his middle name until we had been together for nearly a year!

I personally think anabelle goes better with phoebe and elodie, Phoebe, elodie and Belle sound lovely.
But if you really are sure you want to change it i would - otherwise you will only end up regretting it for ever - i think you can change it up to 1 year - correct if i am wrong.

I would agree with those above who say just call her Mollie. There's something really affectionate about everyone using her MN as her known name, like a designated nickname which everyone uses.

I have known people who go by the MNs and also those who go by totally unrelated names.

Change it!

My friend changed her DS's name - before registering him, but 2 weeks after telling everyone he was called something else! (He has all his baby cards & gifts in the old name!). She felt odd about doing it at the time, but it's old new now and her DS has the name she want, rather than living with old name and regretting it.

I think it'll make a nice story for he DS when he is older "you were called [old name] for 2 weeks". (He'll probably decide he wants to be called that as a teenager ).

You could call her Mollie without changing the birth cert. It's actually traditional in some cultures (e.g. Wales I think) for your first name to be used for official stuff, but for your family to call you by your middle name.

However if you know you'd prefer Mollie to be her given first name, then change it asap. You can change the birth cert without too much trouble, within a time frame (I forget what).

I meant to say "it's old news'"!

If you and your dh prefer Mollie as your dd's first name, I would change it on her bc. It's ok to change your mind.

Change it - lifes too short for regrets

I know several people who have always been known by their middle names.

I don't think you need to change it officially on the birth certificate. My sil was always called by her second name and it has been used on all official documents from NHS registration, school, through to marriage and divorce, and no doubt wil be on her death certificate. nobody will care.

I would try calling her Mollie for a few weeks and, if it sticks, possibly change her name to Mollie Annabelle. I'm not sure I'd bother though - plenty of people go by their middle names and I think Annabelle is a lovely first name to have. Annabelle also sounds more 'grown up' than Mollie so she may wish to use it professionally, for example, and save Mollie for friends and family.

For what it's worth, Annabelle, Phoebe and Elodie sound wonderful together and I think go better stylistically than Mollie, Phoebe and Elodie.

Use Mollie as a childhood nickname but keep Annabelle as her first name.

DH uses his middle name as his first name , his parents did so from day 1. He doesnt have any problems, other than forgetting who he is when the doctors call out his 'real' first name!!