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Baby names

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Baby name dilema.

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CharlotteLR1985 · 19/05/2012 18:05

I was hoping for a little advice on a naming issue that has sprung up.

My partner and I have basically chosen our name. It been chosen pretty much since before baby was conceived (with one back up just in case)

The name has been kept top secret.

My partners 9 yr old boy has been coming up with names for months and has so far not mentioned the chosen name?

It was the name on a tv show recently so we tested the water with him saying what a nice name we thought it was. He replied that he hated it. Apparently there is a girl at his school with it and she's fairly horrible.

I'm now concerned that its going to cause problems when the baby comes but at the same time don't want my name choice to be dictated by a 9 year old.

Do you think it's more likely just a kid being silly and that when the name is associated with his own sister he will get over it or could it make it hard for him to bond with her?

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AKMD · 19/05/2012 19:18

He'll get over it. His first association with the name will swiftly be replaced with a second, nicer one. If the girl was bullying him then it would be a different story.

birdofthenorth · 19/05/2012 19:29

My partner's son was insistent on naming my DD after his granny's cat He got over it!

Trestle · 19/05/2012 19:51

Ignore the random negative association - it will soon be overridden and forgotten. Choose whichever name you like :)

Hassled · 19/05/2012 19:54

I think it might make the initial bonding just that little bit harder for him if it's a surprise - tell him your plans now, so he has some time to think about it and adapt to the idea. Don't show him his new sibling and say "and here's

thegreylady · 19/05/2012 20:25

Maybe let him choose a middle name so he feels that his viws matter to you.

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CharlotteLR1985 · 19/05/2012 20:28

We would tell him the name if we thought he could keep it a secret but we know he can't.

Regarding the middle names we did ask for his ideas but he either came up with names of people he knows ie family members, cat names, names of his soft toys or just ridiculous names (fizzy lemon) I think sadly he's just a little bit too immature for that sort of thing.

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Hassled · 19/05/2012 20:46

Why does it have to be a secret? What's the secret actually achieving? Does the secret matter that much?

ChippingIn · 19/05/2012 20:48

Keep it 'secret' until you have registered her :) The last thing you need is all and sundry telling you what they think - once you have registered her they will mostly just be polite. Mostly.

He's 9 - he'll get over it.

FrauGrau · 19/05/2012 21:09

I agree with ChippingIn

Badgerina · 20/05/2012 07:26

He'll get over it. Every name we discuss with DS1 (7), he starts crying and saying "oh I'VE ALWAYS WANTED TO BE CALLED THAT! Why does the baby get the cool names!?!?!?"

Now he's had a few weeks to get used to the ideas we've suggested, he's much calmer and happier.

exoticfruits · 20/05/2012 07:29

He will get over it. I hated the name my parents chose for my younger brother, I still do but I didn't harbour a grudge- it doesn't matter.

Flubba · 20/05/2012 07:45

Ooh, Fizzy Lemon as a middle name. Is it sleep deprivation that's making me think that sounds kinda cool? :o

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