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Baby names

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yellowflowers · 15/05/2012 23:25

I've asked about this before but now I am pregnant I wanted to canvass opinion again. The only girls name I like begins with the same letter at dd's name. It souled very different as a name but still is a similar type. I don't want to out myself by saying what they are but I suppose it's similar in the way Florence and Felicity are or Violet and Verity.

I've always been adamant kids should have their own initial but now I want to break my own rule. But what do you all think - is it just too twee?

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startail · 15/05/2012 23:29

My sister and I do, never thought about it.

I'd left for Uni by the time both of us got much official post and our birthdays are months apart so very little to confuse.

hellymelly · 15/05/2012 23:29

Well I've done it, I can't say I really like it but at 6 weeks poor DD2 wasn't registered and had no name as I couldn't find one we liked as much as the one with the same initial as DD1. It is a bit cutesy when I have to say them together, but in the end I went for choosing the name I felt best fitted the baby.

Stellan · 16/05/2012 11:12

If possible, give them a different middle name as letters are often addressed Miss A.N. Other etc.

Positiveplus · 16/05/2012 11:38

I personally wouldnt do it - I dont really like alliteration in any form.
I am awkward though when it comes to names!! - I, for example, have ruled out a possible girls name because its starts with the same initial as my DH's name!! Told you I was awkward...

TwentyMinutes · 17/05/2012 08:39

Me, mum and sister had the same. It doesn't matter much except with bank statements. I had a few 'accidently' opened...

Just use a different middle initial? We don't have middle names hence the confusion.

Lunarlyte · 18/05/2012 14:30

No, it certainly isn't twee. The only issue you might have is when letters arrive when they are older. Say if one daughter is Anna Smith and the other is Alice Smith, which 'Miss A. Smith' is the letter for?

Tiny problem though if you really like the names Anna and Alice!

minipie · 18/05/2012 14:57

Not really a problem IMO.

The post thing is always mentioned which seems odd to me, how much post do children get anyway?

What's more of an issue is if you have a third child - would you then feel obliged to give them a name with the same initial? unless you are sure you are stopping at 2 of course!

AChickenCalledKorma · 18/05/2012 15:00

Children don't get much post .... which means that anything addressed to them amounts to an "event", in which it would be very disappointing to discover that the exciting envelope was actually for your sister.

That's why we avoided using the same initial.

suburbandream · 18/05/2012 15:01

My Dad and I have the same initial, and DH and I do too! There have been a few accidental post openings in the past, but these days I find most post is addressed using your full first name, whereas when I was younger it was just First initial and surname.

minipie · 18/05/2012 17:43

AChicken I see your point...

Lexiesgirl · 18/05/2012 20:22

The post thing could become an issue when they are a little older, teenagers and young adults get more post. But its a minor issue if you love a name.

I have the same initial as DB and once got chased by debt collectors for his debt because they just saw 'A Other' who once lived at the same address - stupid idiots couldn't spot the 'Miss' and 'Mr'!!!

Bunbaker · 18/05/2012 20:25

"how much post do children get anyway? "

Small children don't, but when they get older they do, and many young people stay at home for longer these days because they can't afford to move out.

I have a friend with two children and the entire family have the same initials. So any letter addressed to F. Bloggs could be for any one of four people (the children are older so it really could be for any of them)

abbypumpkin · 19/05/2012 00:26

I wouldn't let it stop me from using a name that I loved. There is the post issue but that's a minor inconvenience and I would say that the majority of my post is addressed using my full first name rather than just A.Person. In terms of them being a similar type of name then again not an issue, they are both individuals and will spend more of theirs lives apart being, addressed and known separately, than they will spend together. The only time it will really be used is in writing Christmas cards.

GrandPoohBah · 19/05/2012 10:06

My DH has the same initial as his brother, sister and mum (I'm really not sure what my MIL was thinking to be honest, my SIL and MIL have the same names), but they all have different middle initials so it works fine.

BlingBubbles · 19/05/2012 10:12

I went to school with a girl who had 4 sisters and a brother and they all shared the same initials as did their mother and father and dog....

PinkChampagneandStrawberries · 19/05/2012 10:21

My mum and her 2 sisters all start with the same letter.

My son starts with an A and if I ever have a daughter she will also start with an A as I love the name, I'd rather have 2 names that I love than than one I love and one I just chose because it didn't start with A

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