DH won't talk about names!

[javotte]

I didn't have this problem for DS and DD because we had agreed on a boy's name and a girl's name about a month after our first date
I'm in my fourth month now and every time I try to talk about baby names he grunts and talks about something else. Is it too early in the pregnancy? Should I pretend to choose a ridiculous name to force him to react?

Have you tried asking him at what point he'd like to discuss names? It does sound like odd behaviour!

Maybe he's being cautious and doesn't want to jinx anything, and wants to wait until later?

How about:

"If you won't talk to me about names I'll have to choose by myself, and I'm choosing Eggbert!

I have had this problem with my DH. I'm also pregnant with DC3, and while I have spent most of the pregnancy thinking about different names, trying things out in my head etc., my DH has not really been interested in baby name conversations. I don't know if he's thought about it on his own, but I don't get the feeling that he has! A couple of times in the earlier months I have run my name thoughts past him, and he will say if he likes or dislikes my suggestions, but he just doesn't seem to find it the entertaining and stimulating topic that I do!
However, we went out for dinner last week when I was 35 weeks, and he was much more receptive to it and we spent quite a while talking it all through. I think for him the baby needs to be nearer to being born before it becomes a real decision to be made. (He was similar with DD2). Of course, he does still have opinions on which names he likes from the shortlist I drew up, so I won't have completely free choice to name dd3 anything I fancy!
My tip would be to spend as much time as you want thinking about names, drawing up lists, looking at websites etc, so that you get to make the list of name choices. You could then ask DH to pick from those suggestions. But I wouldn't push DH into talking about it all the time, and maybe only bring the subject up occasionally. I'm guessing when your due date gets nearer, your dh will be more interested.

Thanks for your advice. lulu I'm not nagging him (honestly).
I'll make a list and try to bring it up in a couple of months.

I remember this with DS' middle name. DP got to choose it, and it was only around the 36 week mark he showed any real interest.

DH refuses to think about it until we know the sex, otherwise it's twice the work.

I am making a shortlist of names I love and will present it to dh for him to pick. If he doesn't like my list then he can make his own and i will choose from that and so on until we agree. This is how we chose our other children's names