I'm not pregnant but just <lightheartedly, ahem> debating with DH names we like

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Ok so just in deadly serious, death to the loser type battle royale fun, I am currently TTC and we have had many discussions about names we like and hate.

We are going to have a BIG problem, my DH is 20 years older than me and in most things I'm happy with how he see's life but not in the world of baby names.

I have a DSS who is 13 called Liam.

I like either really really really old names or american ones (not much difference), DH vetoes nearly all off them but doesn't actually add many suggestions himself.

So I love

Chase (would be number one without question) but this is a definate no, I may get away with it as a middle name.
Lucas - Both agree and goes with DSS, but so popular and I want something slightly different
Zacharia - Like, but DH used to have a sodding dog called Zac
Zane - possible, but then the middle name is a pain, because Zane Chase does not go.
Noah - Loved and vetoed
Isiah - Liked and vetoed

Girls names are even worse

DH suggested "helpfully"

Sharon and Tracy (which are fine, are not what I intend to use ever)

I suggested
Felicity - Loved and vetoed
Francesca - Loved and vetoed
Sophie - Liked but very popular
Lucy - Possible, maybe but still popular
Savannah - Loved and given the "look" didn't even warrant a veto
Amelia - too popular
Mallory - Liked and vetoed
Cassiopia

So Mumsnetters what happens when you are a million miles apart in what you both like?
As I say this is tongue in cheek at the moment, but it's a right PITA.

Your DH sounds about as helpful as my DH. We only named DD after we'd had her and then he came up with a name whilst I was in the 3rd stage of labour. It was a name I loved and he'd previously vetoed, so there is some hope.

The best thing you can do is get him to right a list of his top ten names and then take it from there.

Get him to write a list of names he likes and work from there. I know it's like drawing teeth sometimes but he may come out with some fantastic names! If he's dry for inspiration throw a baby names book at him!

Definitely get a list written! DP spent my whole pregnancy vetoing names I liked. We wrote huge long lists and looked for any names in common, then we had a short-list of names, a mix of those in common and a few we each really loved, pinned to the fridge for weeks so we could keep looking at them on a daily basis and see if we still felt keen on them.

Just keep throwing loads and loads of ideas around, even if you think he won't like them just come out with them.

I have spoken to DP about baby names since we got together 9 years ago and I thought we would never agree on anything. But I suggested a boys name I thought he would hate and he suggested a girls name he thought I would hate and guess what - we now have two names we both love.