WDYD if DH just won't budge?

[LaTristesse]

DH is set on a name for our DD1 due in a couple of weeks. I'm not keen.

I have tried suggesting other names, putting name books under his nose, sending him lists of names to go through but he's just not entertaining any of it. I think he thinks I'll change my mind when she's here, but it's really starting to piss me off. I've agreed to compromise on the names I like, but he's not doing likewise. His mum has also said she doesn't like his name, (which may be contributing to his defiant attitude I will admit), but what else can i try? I have visions of him sneaking her down the registry office without me just to get his own way... He is a stubborn bugger at the best of times, but I'm going to have to resort to names out of a hat and pray his doesn't come up if we can't talk about this properly. Any suggestions?

I'd inform him that if he doesn't grow up and discuss the names, HE will be the one without a choice and you'll go and register the child under the name you like when it's born. You don't actually have to do this, its an unpleasant thing to do, but if he's being unpleasant too...

If you don't like the name, don't use it - and let him know that if there had been discussion, you may have come round to it, but his behavior has ruined the name now so that's that, its off the table, and he'd better get in on the decision as to what the name will be.

Juno is awful- but at least it's a name. Indi is just 4 random letters.

Juno is terrible, sorry.

You could always be the one to sneak off and register the name

Why don't you start making jokes about his name choice...

'Juno what I'd like for dinner tonight?'

'Juno what I'd really like to call the baby?'

'Juno what I reckon it should be called if it turns out to be a boy?'

Would that put him off it? However, IMHO Juno is a far nicer nicer name than Indi!

Juno is OK, but with Juno-esque as a euphemism for "fat" you'd have to spend years praying that she didn't go through an awkward puppy-fat stage in her teens.

do you mean Inday (in -dye) or indi (in-dee)?
why not give him a taste of his own medicine. tell him you heard a gorgeous name today, (choose 1 he'll hate) and stick with it till he agrees to compromise then say the only name that even comes close is indi :)

Juno's a border collie I'm afraid. It's a real sheepdog's name.

I would perhaps inform the midwives that the registration docs are to be given to you when he is not around!

I don't get the 'not budging'. You don't like the name = it's not happening. Same as if he hated a choice of yours. He can not budge all he likes- she won't get registered until there is a name chosen that both of you approve of.

He sounds like a childish bully.

It's the fact that the OP is posting on here asking what to do that signifies a bigger problem.

I mean, the obvious answer - and the one we'd all employ - is just to say, 'no, I don't like that name, and you don't get to make a unilateral decision' (or something slightly less pompous, but words to that effect ), but the OP obviously doesn't feel she can do that.

This is really what makes her DH seem like such an arse...

Croc's plan is genius.

Has your dh seen the pregnant teen film? If not I would watch it to see if you can put him off.

I was heartbroken (pregnancy hormones) when DH vetoed my first choice but if you don't agree on a name it is off the table. Back to the drawing board.

You are going to have to learn how to communicate and work on reaching agreements or your life as parents is going to be harder than it needs to be.

After going through childbirth I get final say on any name! I would never have gone with a name dh hated but did have dd1 with dh hoping we'd go for Eve - once she was born and 32 stitches later dh decided it was my choice. I suggested the name I'd loved for years but had forgotten about and he loved it to (mind you I think he wouldn't have dared not love it).

A friend of mine wanted to call her ds a name and her dh overruled her so her 1st name became his middle name and her dh's name choice was ds 1st name - I was stunned and she was upset. I thought she was pathetic and he was an arse.