Unpleasant comments you have received when revealing baby name

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My friend has just had a daughter (Monday morning, all new and pink and fresh and gorgeous). She has chosen Alice Elizabeth, (imo) a timeless classic name which wont age.

Her mother's comment:

''Oh. Playing it safe are you?''
''Well I suppose someone has to use the boring names so the braver people can use the nicer ones...''

I mean as comments go, it's not the nastiest, but the timing (Alice was about four hours old and friend was in blissed out baby loveness) wasn't great.

Just wondered what, if any negative comments you had when announcing baby name...

we didnt have a name for our dd3 when she was born. was in hospital for 4 days due to c section. so told mil i would text her the name when we had agreed.

sent said text to her and received a 'cool' reply.

5mins later, she sent a text saying 'why dont you call her ~~~~~? (her daughters name) but change the spelling.

so i now know you dont like your grandaughters name!

it was made worse by the fact that sil has cancer. was she asking, as a tribute in case she dies????. wouldnt sil think that too, if we did it?
did she tell sil that she asked us to, but we didnt? it was awful.

in the end, i just sent a message saying, 'we're definately calling her ~~~~~.

on telling my MIL that we were thinking of Lydia for a girl ....
"what!? like lid o yer taypot?" in her witchy Glasgow accent!

Featured thread, whoop!

Thanks to you all for your answers...I have been showing them to friend - her mother has since backtracked and said to her daughter ''well you are perhaps a bit over-sensitive, perhaps your milk was coming in. I didnt say I hated it, just that it was a bit boring...''

Think mother dearest suffers from foot-in-mouth syndrome or is just a bitchy old cow

Friend can laugh about it and says thanks for all of these - reading some, her mother's comment was a drop in the ocean!! :)

well, with ds, dh & i could not agree on a name we both liked, so decided he'd pick the boys name, i'd pick the girls name.

at the 20 week scan, we found out baby was a boy, so dh "won".

my mum reckons ds name is horrible. i agree (not so much the name, but the sheer amount of folk with that name who i can't stand). although we're both used to it now, & agree it suits him.

i'm currently pregnant with dc2, & again, we can't agree on names. (no way am i getting duped again ) however, chatting on phone to my mum recently, i said we were thinking "morvern" for a girl. mum goes "oh, i don't like that" and i say "well, i do" and she goes, "no, i really don't like that at all" so i just repeat myself (a lot steelier this time, i might add) and she goes "oh well, of course, its not up to me, call it what you like, but naaahhh, i really don't like that"

i mean, wtf?

Glittery I think your mum and my mum are cut from the same cloth, she does the exact same thing with 90% of names I mention. She has even texted and rung me to give me suggestions that she likes

needles, my mum's not quite that bad (yet )

although, she has suggested i name this baby "craig" if its a boy.

her reason? over 40 years ago, she used to babysit a wee boy with vaguely similar hair/ colouring etc as ds, who was called craig. as a result, she often says "craig- errm- no, not craig, erm- where did that come from- erm, i mean..." while ds looks a bit at her. so, if i call this one craig, she'll have a more legitimate excuse for mixing ds's name up.

she's bonkers but i love her !! [grin}

My child's name choice apparently 'threw my FIL into a rage' which subsequently caused him to break the hearts of HIS son, and MY parents, by his outrageously unforgivable reaction and behaviour. I was told he could 'tolerate it' if we swapped the middle name over with the first name. Two words - 'F@*K OFF'. And all this whilst our newborn was barely 3 hours old and in special care due to being 6 weeks prem.

Nasty, nasty malignant tumour of a man. Still - what goes around, comes around. Name choice is entirely personal, and no one has the right to stamp all over another person's choices and feelings.

OOOO Jdub .... was it.... David?

what an arse!

ha ha!

He'll regret who is responsible for choosing his nursing home...!!!

jdub yes, i'm sure of course your priority at the time was making sure fil could "tolerate" your sons name- i mean, prem baby in special care obviously comes second to pandering to fil.

what an arse of a man.

over-inflated sense of his own importance, or what?

God Jdub - please tell us the name which caused such a reaction?
It wasn't Adolf or something like that was it?

Alice Elizabeth is a lovely name.

Me: "He's called Kit"
Work colleague: (puzzled look) "Why did you call him Kit?"

As if there had to have been some strong reason that we were forced to call him Kit, obviously inconceivable that we could have just liked the name

I know someone who called her daughter Providence - her husband's parents refused to talk to them, or see them for 2 weeks.

And a friend recently called her son Manni - her MIL said (very loudly) in the maternity ward - 'that sounds like the name of a big, fat Jewish man'. Great.

I was talking to a parent on the playground years ago (picking up DD2), mentionned I had an adult DD1...

"Oh really, I didn't know that? What's her name?"
""
"??!! Oh...um...that's very unusual , how did you come up with that?....all my children have proper names, you know

delightful woman....

sis's DS1 was named Ralph (IS named Ralph,I should say). it was met with an uncomfortable silence by her very traditional Scottish MIL who wanted Fraser or Hamish or some such!!! She eventually found her voice and said primly "well, I suppose I'll get used to it!" Baby is now nearly 18 years old and couldn't be named anything else - he is a Ralph from head to toe.

I'm American and as such have different naming tastes than most of England. I think it's silly that people get so worked up about other people's children's names, as if it really has something to do with them and their opinion. 90% of the time everyone says that the child then goes on to "really suit" the name and "couldn't imagine being called anything else" etc.

I'm halfway through my pregnancy and have pretty much decided on a surname (there are loads more here used than in the UK) as a first name, and have only told my sister, who thinks it's brilliant. I know the older generations won't, but that's because they're not in this generation! Geez. Everyone else had their turn at naming babies and now it's ours, who gives a stinking poo what they think

MamaLazarou I like your grandmother she is bloody funny! I don't agree with her about the name but she is witty and has given me a giggle!

kitsmummy He was SO hoping you were a knight rider fan! I don't think I have ever intentionally insulted anyone but I have a feeling (after reading all these comments) that I must be completely rude to mums all the time. But who gives a F* what anyone says! While I was ponder a choice for DD2 I was told by a friend "Well it's not really very you is it?" Err, No, it's not.

I can totally see why people don't tell anyone their name choices until the baby is born!!!

I mentioned when I was pregnant that I liked Bella and was told you can't name a baby after a magazine

When pg with ds we used to call my bump, erm, Charliebump. So FIL and MIL say how sweet etc then said "But what are you actually going to call him?" and we said "Well, er, Charlie actually" and they said "Oh no, that's the name of one of the old blokes down at bowls". And?

DS1's name - My mother "Oh" long pause... "That'll take me a while to get used to"

but she said the same thing when we told her (after scan) that he was a boy, as apparently "we have girls in our family" - erm, don't think my father is a girl is he, and she has a brother... how does that work? She meant she personally had daughters, therefore I was supposed to :?

She suggested names for DS2 - her suggestions being first the name of my cousin, whom I am not close to (if you give your child the name of somebody in the family it looks as though you are naming the child "after" that person, or is that my imagination?) and second the name of my longest term ex (out of the picture before I met DH but obviously lots of people I still see - like my sisters for example - knew him and might imagine a reason behind the name) - again, did she not think that would be weird?

Alice Elizabeth is lovely! Elizabeth is my nans, dm's, ds's and dd's middle name, it's a bit of a tradition. Dd is called Freya, an elderly family acquaintance looked me straight in the eye and said 'That's a stupid name.' Like I give a crap!

My crazy grandmother threw a strop because my dm wouldn't name ds after her - Joyce. I've never understood the self-importance of people who demand babies are named after them! It doesn't help that she has always been a bitch to my mother and still is to this day.

Our choice should DS had been a girl would have been Lydia. At 39 weeks of pregnancy was discussing with my sister when she said 'you can't have that name - it is the name of the clap clinic ward where I work! She'll be Chlamydia Lydia!' I was mortified and a bit delighted when DS was born!