naming after very sick relative

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A member of my family is very ill (cancer) and not thought to have too many months to live, I have always been fairly close to this person and would like to use his name for our 2nd child (well if its a boy). I am due in a few months so really we dont know what the situation will be by the time the baby is born.

We have decided on a list of 3 names, 2 where we would use his full name (although he normally goes by the shortened version) as the middle name.
The other option is we could use another form of the name which we both love and is what he was known as as a child, we actually considered this name for our first child.

I am concerened that this may seem a bit pre-emptive i guess as i am hoping he will still be around when the baby is born and dont want family members to be uncomfortable about babys name. I will speak to some family about it but wondered others opinions, thanks

pick the name you want and family members will understand why you want to honour this relative -all the best

Who wouldn't be delighted to have a child named after them? I think it's a lovely idea. I named my son after my ancient, doddery grandad and nobody batted an eyelid!

Both our DDs have middle names that come from relatives that died while I was pregnant in honour of them. We didn't tell people beforehand but everyone was really touched and some quite emotional when they heard the names. It really is such a compliment.

My DD will be having my mother's name as a middle name in tribute to her this has been the case since I was pregnant with DS. DH is aware that this is non negotiable and I don't give a fig what the family think my mum was one of the most important people in my life and I still miss her every day.

My sister and I were both pregnant when our Dad died, and he knew that DS1 was having his name as a middle name and that DN was having his middle name (which he was known by by family) as his middle name. We would have picked these names regardless of him dying, and he was touched to know.

DS2 is named after a very much still alive great uncle, so it doesn't have to be seen as pre-emptive