We can't choose - can you? Surname Help

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I have name changed for this.

Both me and DH are equally attached to our surnames.
Both are very unusual.
DH comes from a big family, while my name (for my family) dies with me.

We can't decide. We both agree that if one was very 'normal' we would chose the other but as they aren't ...

Help!

Bizuayehu
OR
Pihlajama

You could double barrel but only use it for official documents etc. and then either surname for everyday use , that's what we do because my parents couldn't decide either! My mother has a long Dutch surname and my father a short English one , officially its double barrelled but since I already have a long name plus a middle name I only use my nickname and the last bit of my surname for everyday use . I'm not going to out myself lol but think something like Jennifer Adelaide van der Heever-Smith , and then go by Jen Smith. That way the wifes surname doesn't die out but you also don't have to write it all out the whole time . the only things with my full name on are my passport and my bank accounts , even at work I'm just known by the short version of my name .

My DD has my name as one of her names. I don't use my DHs name but we agreed that she would.
She's already told me that she will continue to use her four names when she gets married but double barrel with her DPs name to give her five.

I would double barrel.

Or I'd have your surname.