Is it wrong...

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My little sister died when I was young and if we have a girl, I'd like to call her after my sister; wrong or right? I like Jessica Emily .

Why would it be wrong? Have you spoken to your parents though? As much as its your choice would it upset them too much?

:( for your loss holls

I am a little uneasy at using it as a first name - I definately would use as middle names though. However if your parents are comfortable with the idea then go for it. It is a lovely tribute

I think it would be a nice tribute, however I would check with your parents first (if they are still around), as some people don't like it or find it too upsetting. My friend called her daughter after an aunt who had passed away, and her gran and other aunts weren't happy about it so my friend now feels awkward about using the full name and only ever uses the shortened form.

I thought we might put it as middle name and obv will check with Mum. But it'd be nice to do something to remember her, I feel she's missed by us all but we never can really do anything to acknowledge her.

Doing family history research, I've come across many instances where, when a child died, the next child to come along would be given the same name (assuming it was the same sex obviously).

Although not entirely the same thing, I think it is perfectly acceptable to do this, so long as your parents are happy about it.

Good luck with everything

Thanks all for being so kind ;-)

So sorry to hear about your sister :(.
I agree talk to your parents about it. I think as it's going to be their grand-daughter, and so obviously someone very important to them, they may well think it is a very lovely thing to do, but it can only be positive to talk it over. What a very lovely way to pay tribute to your sister.

I probably would not use it, because obviously it holds a lot of sadness within your family, I would prefer to give my child a clean slate iykwim?

So sorry for your loss x

If your parents are fine with it, it sounds lovely. Might be too raw for them though.

In my family, names were endlessly re-cycled where a child died. I think it's a good thing to do.

Definitely check with your mum and dad. We lost our son and struggle with children of the same name especially an in law family member choosing the same first name. It makes me upset even thinking about it. But as its obviously longer ago it may be easier for them, also as a middle name in remembrance it may be gentler.

The days of calling the next sibling the same name have thankfully passed. This was largely done when the loss of a child was even more taboo.

It'd be much safer to use it as a middle name.
I'm just trying to think how I would feel if I was your DD carrying the name.

Yes, discuss it with your parents. Perhaps you could use it as a middle name? DH's mum died when he was young and we toyed with using her name for DC2 (due in a couple of weeks) but have decided it would be difficult for his dad - so we are using it as a middle name (if it's a girl)

I was going to do this. My brother's name was Nicholas. I was 7 when he died. I planned to use it as a middle name if DC1 was a boy, but she was a girl. If I have a DS in the future I still might use the name. I haven't mentioned it to my parents as they have hardly mentioned Nicholas since he died and I would have no idea how to bring it up with them :(