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Baby names

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Using a very bengali name- would it seem odd?

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fivegotoacliffandfalloff · 20/09/2011 22:08

My best friend since the age of 14 died about 2 years ago.

Now I'm expecting would like to include her in DCs if a DD name.
She was british bengali, so can I use her name (DH and I are not), or would it appear wierd/odd?

I know I could just use it as a mn but I want to really have it as a fn (unless it would be odd then would have to have a mn)

So what do you think of using:

Dilruba

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nailak · 20/09/2011 22:09

i dont think it is odd, this is the era of multiculturalism, people who are not welsh use welsh names etc so whats the diff?

MockingbirdsNotForSale · 20/09/2011 22:12

I don't think it is screamingly Bengali. Go for it regardless. My DD has a Welsh name and we aren't Welsh and the other name we were thinking of for her was Indian and we are not.

MockingbirdsNotForSale · 20/09/2011 22:13

Also, lots of nicknames can be used from it like Dilly or Ruby.

BarryKent · 20/09/2011 22:14

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fivegotoacliffandfalloff · 20/09/2011 22:22

Barry Yeah well enough as we have a very very short and relatively well known surname.
Glad we can use it

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poormesomemore · 20/09/2011 22:29

Not odd at all. Really like naming after friend. Plus it is a really nice name.

SheCutOffTheirTails · 20/09/2011 22:34

She'll have an unusual name with a very personal story.

I think it's a lovely way to remember your friend :)

greenzebra · 21/09/2011 09:30

I think its lovely and it has a lovely story to it. And if your partner and you are in a agreement then go for it.

chandellina · 21/09/2011 09:43

yes, by all means go for it. lots of French, Irish, Italian, etc. names used by people with zero genetic links to those places!

TwoPeasOnePod · 21/09/2011 10:19

What a lovely name, and a beautiful reason behind why you want to use it. Think to yourself, you only get one life and you only get to name your child once, choose a name YOU like and that has meaning to YOU. It is utterly and completely irrelevant what anyone else thinks. Plus, as I already said, it is a lovely name!

hulabula · 21/09/2011 12:29

What a lovely, underused name and what a lovely reason for choosing it!

poppydaisy · 21/09/2011 14:23

Never heard of Dilruba but I like your reason for choosing it and agree it has lovley nicknames.

winkle2 · 21/09/2011 21:56

Doesn't sound very Bengali and I like the nicknames and the reason behind it.

avacat · 22/09/2011 17:34

It's a lovely name and has a lovely meaning. It's also the name of an Indian instrument and a very popular song!

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