Just a sad dissapointed thread because i cant and would never sayanything in rl

[addictediam]

My sisters baby is due anyday now and she doesnt know the sex.

She is English and her husband Scottish (although he has always lived in england as have his parents and their parents) My sister has a fasination with Japan and already has a dd with a very lovley sounding Japaneese name

But she has just announced that if the baby is a girl she is going to call her oumai (I'm not sure on the spelling but its pronounced you-may). My mum has tried to talk her out of it but she has her heart set on it.

My neice is going to be bullied for the rest of her life . Is it bad i'm praying for a boy (even if it does mean I have to find a new name for my baby!)

Just tell me I'm being unreasonable to be this upset about it, its her baby, her name and i need to get over it.

I don't understand why you feel sad for the girl? What am I missing? They're using a name you don't like. Why are you feeling sad?

I think it's quite pretty.

I think it is fine and BTW if you both have such radically different tastes in girls names she probably hates your choice but has kept quiet, you can please some of the people but not all, there will probably be someone somewhere who has known someone bullied for the name you have choosen.

I know an all-Welsh family who have a baby with a Japanese name. It really suits her. And as you say, they already have a child with a Japanese name. At a guess, they may have named her Yume meaning 'dream'.

oumai is a strange way to transcribe a Japanese name into roman letters, a Japanese person would read that name as oh-my. As helen says, maybe they are trying to go for Yume, a lovely and classic Japanese name.

If they are going to give her a Japanese name, please make sure they are spelling it correctly.

OP is not sure of spelling so probably is Yume.

OP would you feel sorry for her if they were Japanese?

I think it's pretty. And she will only get teased if her name is a verb.

It will probably be spelt by all and sundry as yumay,
I have a friend who has a gaelic name with impossible spelling, she gave up giving the correct spelling yrs ago.
In fact in her last job when she left they gave her a framed print of all the different concoctions of her name spelling that clients had used in letters..very amusing as there were so many.

Also think it's most odd that your bil thinks he's scottish. I was born there as all my family have ,dd born in england and she doesn'tt remotely think of herself as scottish.

YABU.
It is non of your business what anyone else calls their child. Just look at all the threads where parents have been persuaded not to use a particular name by family members. My fil stuck his nose into our name choice for dd1 and I do regret not using the name just because of his opinion. Btw I don't think children are bothered what their friends are called.

My mum's Irish and my dad's Scottish and my sister got a Swahili name. She then gave her DD a Swahili name that has a similar meaning to hers and is very pretty. Is that not ok?

I'm not saying giving her a japaneese name is not ok, infact she phoned today and asked what i thought of it, so i told her. we then went through other japaneese names she liked she may choose yume (you were right on the spelling) she may choose another its the way its pronounced in english that i have problems with.

however i just wanted to get it all out on this thread so i didnt blurt it all out to my sister (which i didnt, i said it was a nice japaneese name and my sister knowing me said 'you hate it dont you? what do you think of....')

the name i've chosen if my baby is a girl isnt particularly english, neither is my name. i have no problem with non english names it was more the way it sounds in english (as in you may). i put that both my sister and bil are english to give alittle bit of back ground, i thought otherwise you may have jumped in and said is she japaneese? or something similar.

you are being unreasonable yes. esp to be sad and disappointed over it!

it isn't your baby! they can call their baby whatever they want to. I really don't understand why people get this involved in what other people name their children.
I am interested in what friends and family have as potential name choices, but i'd never be sad or disappointed if it wasn't a name I liked that's quite weird imo!

your niece will not be bullied just because of her name and it's ridiculous to get all sad and upset because you think she will.

disapointed is also the wrong word but i couldnt think of the word 'worried' at the time

i know she can call her baby what ever she likes and i am being totaly unreasonable

UK is such a multicultural society these days that there will be lots of 'strange' names around in future so anything goes really.

crystal your right when i was a child at school there werent anyother children from any other cultures so my unusual name got mocked and i guess that skews my perception.

I think you're basing this child's future far too much on your past. I have an unusual name as does my sister, and went to a very white british primary school. No one could care less about our names and we certainly weren't ever teased about them. Children are very accepting of difference, especially at a young age and I honestly don't think this child is going to be bullied about their name. Stop worrying!

it's a lovely name.