First of all, while our name choices could be considered unusual to some people, we both have unusual names ourselves. :)
We found out we are going to be having a little girl, but early on in my pregnancy talking about names was stressful, and it seems to still be stressful for both of us.
Now, we've thought of alternatives and come down to Ciel - which means sky, or heaven, or Freya, as in the norse god of love.
We both have blue eyes, our parents both have blue eyes, and so on, so I'm pretty certain she's going to be a little blue-eyed girl. We also both have dark hair, and I know nothing is certain but it means it wouldn't be unusual for her to have dark brown hair.
DP is extremely stubborn when it comes to names and doesn't like budging, I've had to think of a lot of alternatives. He likes Ciel, but wants his choice - Freya, to be the first name. and Ciel to be the middle name. I feel pressured into choosing Freya even though I would prefer it as a middle name. I feel Freya is not only much better suited to a blonde girl (as the norse god had long blonde hair), but it's also becoming increasingly common. Something we agreed upon at the start was we want our child's name to be unique.
Now here's the main problem. If we choose Freya, I feel as if I have not really contributed much for some reason to my first and much wanted child's name, especially as his last name I will definitely be taking when we get married. (We are engaged). I don't really understand why I feel that way, perhaps I am just selfish. My partner will probably be upset with me if I choose Ciel though, which he says is because when we were discussing names for a little boy earlier on in the pregnancy, I was stubborn about what to call our little boy if we found out as such. However, later on in the pregnancy but before we found out the gender, I decided to choose his choice of a boy's name as I thought on it and grew to like it more.
The second problem is I have, as well as my mother has, caught my grandmother telling people the girl's name will be Freya. Because she likes it, despite the fact we have not yet decided on the name. Apparently she did the same thing to my mother. DP has also a couple of times told friends the name will be Freya.
I apologise this is so long! I just hate arguments and we don't seem to be going anywhere, so I would like to hear your opinions on our choices and our current situation. Be gentle please. :)