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Can I use DD1's middle name for DD2?

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Maternelle · 03/04/2011 20:34

I am going out of my mind looking for name for DD2. The criteria are pretty complex as DH is irish, I am breton and it has to work in France and the UK.
It took us ages to find a name but am having second thoughts. My favorite name always was DD1's middle name.
DH vetoed it saying we can't have it now for DD2's first name.

Do you think it's a no-no?

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SilkStalkings · 03/04/2011 20:36

No, try harder. Plenty of pretty French names that are pronounceable in English.

reddaisy · 03/04/2011 20:36

How old is DD1? Could you ask her if she minds? I personally don't think it is a problem but you wouldn't want DD2 thinking her name was second best.

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Maternelle · 03/04/2011 20:37

I want a celtic name. Breton or Irish.

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WickedWitchSouthWest · 03/04/2011 20:37

No, I wouldn't do it sorry.

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Maternelle · 03/04/2011 20:38

DD1 is only 4 and wants to call her sister Flower Rose :-)
OK, it seems DH was right then. Must keep looking. I have done nothing else for 7 months...

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SilkStalkings · 03/04/2011 21:16

Ah yes, Irish names would be a bit tricky over there.
Kerenza? Lowenna? Both are Cornish-Celtic but pronounceable.

EduStudent · 03/04/2011 23:40

I had a male friend whose middle name was the name of his younger brother. Neither seemed unduly concerned.

At least not in public

pirateparty · 03/04/2011 23:46

I know someone who did this. I think it's fine. You hardly use middle names anyway. I say do it!

lovemybabyboy · 04/04/2011 00:41

I would probably try to pick another name..............but in saying that, my mum is one year older than my aunty and my mums middle name is my aunty's first name!!

BlueAmy · 04/04/2011 19:47

A friend of mine has her older sister's middle name as her first name. They've lived with it pretty well. Go for it, if you love the name

missp2010 · 04/04/2011 19:55

We're thinking of doing the same thing. We weren't planning to have any more DC. We used the two names we liked most for DD. I really don't think there's any thing wrong with them both sharing a name. People wouldn't think it odd if you named her after yourself would they? I asked DD if she would mind her sister having her middle name and she thinks it's a fantastic idea, she is only four though....

CharlieCoCo · 04/04/2011 20:00

what is her middle name? could u change it slightly, eg if its Emily, have Amilie/Amelia/Millie etc.

Whelk · 04/04/2011 20:02

No I wouldn't. We were in the same situation as my favourite name was dd1's middle name. We used a totally new name and now that dd2 is 2 I couldn't them sharing a name.
It would compromise a certain amount of individuality I think.

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Maternelle · 05/04/2011 08:29

I still can't decide. It's so hard.

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TotorosOcarina · 05/04/2011 08:37

Use it!!

Middle names are never used anyways!

My Dss middle names are their grandads first names, my DDs middle name is my sisters first name.

seeker · 05/04/2011 08:42

Speaking as a youngest I would have been cross about this as a child. I remember being cross about family photos that didn't have me in them, even though they were taken before I was born.....!

So I am pretty sure I would have taken umbrage at not having my own name.

TotorosOcarina · 05/04/2011 08:45

Can't yoyu give DD1 another middle name? and push the one you want to use to 3rd?

she might really like it that the baby is having her name, my DS(4) is super excited that the new baby will have an 'x' in his name like him! since he found that out he keeps writing 'x' on everything and saying the baby is going to sleep in his bed!

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Maternelle · 05/04/2011 08:53

The problem I have is that our criteria are so strict (we are exposed to 4 languages) that the pool to choose from is very small. I don't think DH will agree though so maybe it's all conceptual.
The fact is that we NEVER use middle names and nobody apart from us and the grannies know about DD1's middle name. But I guess I might have to move on...
I was told I would never have children, if I had known I would have been more careful :-)

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HattiFattner · 05/04/2011 08:56

my 3 male cousins have a combination of 3 names....

Harry John
John Michael
Michael Harry

As you rarely use middle names, Id go for it.

SilkStalkings · 05/04/2011 11:54

She will get enough handmedowns, let her have her own name at least fgs. Just call her Anna.

Astrophe · 05/04/2011 11:58

I know a family who did this with 2 sons. I would never have known but that they told me, and it is SO not an issue. When the boys were smaller, they thought it was very cool, and now they just don't care. Do it.

HansDatdoodishes · 05/04/2011 12:08

I did it.

My DS1 doesn't mind, but he's only 6 so might change his mind in the future.

A year or so ago we officially added an extra middle name to both their names to try to make it less of an issue that my youngest has one of his big brothers middle names.

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Maternelle · 05/04/2011 12:37

I have asked DD and she said no. DH didn't want to it either. So I have to conced defeat. Back to the books.

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everlong · 05/04/2011 12:51

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seeker · 05/04/2011 12:56

It's her baby - but it's her dd1's name!

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