Same name as ex's boyfs son...bad idea?

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Well, as the title suggests, what is your opinion on choosing same name (if we have a boy) as my ex-long term boyfriend's son?

My husband and I do have a couple of other names we are considering but my favourite is flipping the same one as ex's son who is now 2. We don't see them often as we now live in a different country but we are in touch and we have lots of old friends in common...my concern is what ex and our friends will think....

My husband doesn't see the problem and thinks we should just choose it if we like it but it makes me cringe a bit when I think about telling everyone.

So do I just forget it?

If you cringe when thinking about telling people that may not be a good start!
People may whisper but do you see them much to worry about that?
What is the name (ie if it's quite common then I think people may not give more than a passing thought to it, rather than very rare)?

If people whisper I don't really care....but at the same time I don't want them to think it's weird of me!

The name is Arthur...

There are so many lovely boys names. If the thought of telling people your choice is making you cringe pick another name. Can you tell us what it is so we can give other ideas?

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How about;-

George
Charles
Henry
Benjamin
Bertie
Edward

If your heart is set on Arthur then go for it. It's not like its a close friend or family member who is always around.

Arthur is lovely. However, my only worry (if it was me) would be if it did make you think of ex every time you said it, even if you are on good terms, it may not be something you would be able to 'switch off' thinking about.

Depends if you still have contact/move in the same circles I guess. If you do and you're up for a lifetime of being told you have no imagination or that you have 'stolen' their name, then go for it!

You live in a different country? I don't see a problem at all then. It's not as if you would be bumping into them all the time.

Do you see much of the old circle of friends?

I couldn't!

Hmmm....I don't see the old crowd at all apart from the odd time if I am back in UK but they will all find out the name no doubt. So will my ex.

It won't be a huge problem I know, I just wondered if it is a bit 'weird'...

Within a few years you will probably have a totally different circle of friends and may not even be in touch with the ex. I trod on eggshells with friends' kids' names and a few years on I can't even remember who they were or which names I felt I couldn't use!

It's only weird if it makes you feel weird

Thanks for your posts. I have thought about it some more and the phrase "If in doubt leave it" came into my head - that's what my Mum always says about things so am going to follow that I think.

So George it is!

Or Edward.

I think.

I don't know.

I can't make decisions when I am pregnant! This name business is hard!

Whichever name you pick will be connected to someone from your past or future, whether or not you're aware of it now. I'd go for the name you and your partner prefer. I'd guess that after a few days of using it for your own child it'll be their name and you'll forget about any other Arthurs.

Whichever name you choose, someone will do a cats bum face for some reason . Who cares what they think?

(disclaimer - I'm also having trouble finding a boy's name that I like and the fact that someone from my past might wonder about my motivation, well I'd rather just find a name I like!)

A few years ago I discovered my first boyfriend had called his son the same name as my first born. That felt spooky.

If you had any doubts I don't think you would cringe at the thought of telling people.

I wouldn't, it would be too weird
George is a good one in a similar style

Just couldn't either. Sorry! George is nicer anyway :)

We've decided. George it is. Husband says he prefers it anyway. Bet it's a girl now anyway!

Thanks for your help y'all!

Your welcome

Love George!! It's my DS middle name. Keep us posted.