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DH doesn't like anything!

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HopeCalvary · 03/03/2011 18:59

What do you do when you put so much thought into names, and then your dh just dismisses them. We are trying for our second baby, and I really want to think of names now, because when I was pregnant, the thought of some names made me physically sick and I also couldn't look up anything online as the screen made me ill. Texting was a nightmare!

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eileenslightlytotheleft · 03/03/2011 19:01

I recommend the Oxford Dictionary of First Names

www.amazon.co.uk/Dictionary-First-Oxford-Paperback-Reference/dp/0198610602/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1299178849&sr=8-2

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HopeCalvary · 03/03/2011 19:35

Thankyou so much. Am really skint at the moment, but will hint it to my friends! They kept asking me when the baby shower was for my first, and I kept telling them that you don't arrange your own do you?! Never got one in the end lol

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JiltedJohnsJulie · 03/03/2011 19:37

My DH was very good at saying no but never seemed to be able to suggest any so know how annoying it can be.

Good luck with the TTC and hope you feel better with the 2nd pg.

thisisyesterday · 03/03/2011 19:39

my dp was like this and it drove me mad
and he wouldn't even suggest any of his own either

so in the end i pointed out that actually our baby did need a name, and I made a list and he had to choose the one/s he liked (or disliked least)

cece · 03/03/2011 19:40

Why not wait till after the birth then?

JiltedJohnsJulie · 03/03/2011 19:43

Good point cece, now for shagging, 9 months of feeling dizzy then decide on a name, brilliant Grin

JiltedJohnsJulie · 03/03/2011 19:47

Oh and hope if money is an issue have a look at the top 100 baby names for 2009 or your library should have some baby name books.

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HopeCalvary · 04/03/2011 17:25

Thanks good idea! I can do that if I can't bear the screen. Also maybe seeing baby would be better for naming. I'm just affraid we'll disagree! And what a bad time to do that!

Also my mum found out we are trying today, well not so much found out.. I asked her if she liked a particular name. She was really negative and unsupportive because my first labour was so horrific. It's really got me down as I've tried so hard to forget about it. She did call me later to apologise. Ah well.

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JiltedJohnsJulie · 04/03/2011 18:30

So sorry to hear that your first labour was horrific, have you had any counselling or been in touch with Birth Trauma Assoc?

NotAnotherNewNappy · 04/03/2011 21:00

Oh Hope, sorry to hear about your mum's reaction.

DH is doesn't particularly enjoy discussing names and hardly suggests anything himself. In fact, he just saw me reading this thread and asked if I was OP Grin

TBH - I think it will give you the power to choose a name that you really like. I made a list of about 5, all which DH hated at first. Then I repeated them over and over every day until finally he decided there was one that was less bad than the others - in fact he quite liked it.

Also second going to the library for a baby name book. Best of luck TTC.

PepsiPopcorn · 04/03/2011 22:23

If you can't face screenfuls of names, how about printing some out?

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HopeCalvary · 06/03/2011 09:37

I will have a look at Birth Trauma Assoc. Something I also failed to realise was there! Thankyou! It's okay with my mum, she's just always been very over protective of me, and she can't bear the thought of all this happening again! But I'm hopeful that a c-section whilst being major surgery and taking time to recover, will leave a better result.

I was looking at a midwifes forum once for the uk. And one midwife actually said 'I am bemused at the way women want a c-section after having a 3rd or 4th degree tear. They are most certainly going to get a scar.'

Totally missing the point there. No offence to midwifes. But to this in particular one, I would say. You haven't seen me suffer for two years with my quality of life diminished because of how I was left. The doctors are the ones who have to see the aftermath and sort it out, so no wonder they are more likely to suggest c-sections than midwifes! Which was something else she was complaining about.

Lol sorry! I should phone this helpline soon, I obviously have a lot to get off my chest!

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HopeCalvary · 06/03/2011 09:38

Oh and great suggestions about names! Thankyou. I might try the repetition suggestion! Maybe in his sleep! haha!

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Underachieving · 06/03/2011 13:50

"What do you do when you put so much thought into names, and then your dh just dismisses them."

I gave him a peice of A4 and a pen and said, right then Einstein, your go. You're so much better at this than me, I wanna see 10 of each gender on there before tea time. Grin

Then I crossed 19 of the 20 off (genuinely, not for show) and said right well, as you can now see we're not gonna get anywhere without compromise are we.

We got a first name, but ended up tossing coin for the middle name the day before the registras appointment... And now we're pregnant again!

DH's are like big kids, sometimes you have to instil a little discipline to end the whining.

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HopeCalvary · 07/03/2011 14:49

Love it!

I suggested what feels like about 50 names and he's not really liked any of them. So finally he gets my laptop goes to section 'a' and picks one 'a' name. 'There you see' he goes 'I'm a boy, just like shopping, none of this hangin' about!'

I then said, well if you'd have liked the first name I picked we'd have chosen ages ago, it's you that's the fussy one!

And he went 'Oh yeah you're right actually' lol!

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