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Baby nearly 4 weeks old and not named yet

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moppetymum · 11/02/2011 12:48

My friend has not named her baby (almost 4 weeks old). What should I say to her?

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Eglu · 11/02/2011 12:48

None of your business to say anything. If she was in Scotland however she would have had to name the baby before now as you only get 3 weeks.

TanteRose · 11/02/2011 12:50

tell her Vera and Fred are the names everyone is talking about on Mumsnet!

BluddyMoFo · 11/02/2011 12:50

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Underachieving · 11/02/2011 12:51

Say, book your registra's appointment for a day or two before he becomes 6 weeks/ 42 days old now. That way you can't accidentally run out of time.

The right name will come to her, or if it doesn't she'll just have to do what my friend did and call him something normalish and hope he grows into it.

SlightlyTubbyHali · 11/02/2011 12:51

Why should you say anything?

moppetymum · 11/02/2011 12:59

thanks 'underachieving' and 'tanterose' - a great idea. The rest of you are a bit dismissive, surely its unusual not to name a child after so long and I just want to give her a nudge without making her feel bad.

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greenzebra · 11/02/2011 13:07

it took my friend about 4-5 weeks to give her baby a name, some people like to know the baby first and hope that a name springs to mind as they do, but yeah with busy looking after a newborn, maybe remind her how long she has left to make that choice.

Underachieving · 11/02/2011 13:15

It's unusual yes, but it's not something that needs to seem concerning. Lots of things are unusual but not concerning, like taking up thimble collecting as a hobby, or having a child who grows up to be very tall. Relax, it'll be Ok, I'm sure she'll pick something.

And even if she doesn't, it just means a greater beaurocratic tangle to get him registered. It can be quite unpleasanat dealing with the fallout if you miss the 6 week deadline I hear, but that said she wouldn't be the first or the last to do it and it does all work out in the end.

I took the whole 6 to register my daughters and I am glad I did because I had time to privately make sure their names sat right with me. The result is I have no doubt in my choices at all, which is nice.

The little one's middle name was still a toss up between 3 options as I walked into the registra's office! Somehow or other though a name just came out when I was asked the question. It was the one her Dad had fallen in love with rather than the one I most wanted. But that was what I said and to my way of looking at it this means that was what was meant to be.

Don't worry, yes it's unusual, but it's also OK. It'll all come right in the end.

QuestionNumber · 11/02/2011 13:34

I wouldn't say anything. It's really none of your business and she may not appreciate you telling her what she already knows. I'm sure she's well aware the baby will need a name and there's nothing wrong with taking time to choose. The baby will be named soon enough.

moppetymum · 11/02/2011 13:36

Thanks for your time - appreciated.

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Highlandgirl · 11/02/2011 14:55

I agree it's a bit odd...but each to there own.

I'm sure she's very aware that her baby doesn't' have a name yet and mentioning it might just stress her out even more...!

Elizadoesdolittle · 11/02/2011 15:51

Why do you need to say anything?

I agree it's a bit odd but giving her a nudge could stress her out. She is obviously having some issues with names and you pointing it out to her could make her feel worse.

MrsGWay · 11/02/2011 16:00

My DD2 was known as Baby until we registered her just before she was 6 weeks old. We got a letter from the Registrar to remind us (as if we needed to be).

It would've pissed me off for somebody to state the obvious and tell me we had to choose a name. None of their business!

moppetymum · 11/02/2011 17:14

ok - reckon I'll leave her to it!

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rachxx · 11/02/2011 23:39

i didnt name my daughter for a few weeks as i couldnt commit to a name. It stressed me and made me even more indecisive the more people wnt on about it.

NinkyNonker · 12/02/2011 11:55

I know a few people who have waited the full 6 wks, no biggie. We waited 2, apart from anything else we were really busy and it took a while to make an appt. They give you 6 wks for a reason, cause many people need /want it.

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