Arghh, DS has told nana the babys name, but its the wrong one, however ...

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Right, we have named the baby but only the first name.

DH took DS to his nanas the olther day and DS blurted out the baby is called 'xxx'

Nana says ooh thats nice etc...

BUT then DS goes onto say his middle name is 'xyz' which isn't true!! wouldn't be a problem except 'xyz' was DHs grandads name who passed away last yesr!!

So now his mum and nana think the babys middle name is going to be the same as deceased grandad when i really don't want it to be!

DH said he couldn't say 'its not' as his nana was happy about it!

:(

There is a baby int he family that already has been named after him so its not the first baby to take his name so not as big a deal as it could be, but its a really old name and i don't want to use it :(

whats the name

Its just not something i like, think Phil, Harold, John sort of name.

Give him a second middle name.

Put Grandad's name at the end.

Well you're in a pickle now. Look just use the two names you like plus this family name. It is a lovely tribute and if you turn round now and say 'err no' they are going to be gutted and because your dh didn't disagree at the time they will think it's all your fault. Is an extra name worth risking your relationship with your in laws?

my ds2 is names after dh and his dad

Is it at all likely that DH's Nana will ask to see the birth certificate? If not, then you could go along with the middle name story to her, but not actually put it on the BC? Suppose it would all come out at baptism or naming ceremony though....[unhelpful]

"Give him a second middle name.

Put Grandad's name at the end."

yes, sensible. good story to tell when older and the 2 DCs are at each others throats. also grandparents thrilled. can't see any downsides

is anyone even bothered about middle names? It wouldnt make any difference what it was to me. No-one in my family uses middle names.

Maybe you could tweak the spelling?
Graeme is awful but Graham is ok
Phil is dull but Philip quite classic
Harold can be Harald
Leonard - you oculd do Leo?
Lots of names though like Walter, Sidney, Arthur, Henry - are really cool now though.

What is the name?

I'd go with 3 names, 2 middle ones inc the grandad's name now.

Decided to just tell them DS was just saying a random name and DH felt awkward.

They are lovely and don't think they will mind.

DH has a family name along the Phil, John, Terry line and it is sort of expected that we'll use it. It couldn't be further from the sort of name we like but we will give it as a second middle name as we like the tradition.

We like names more along the names of the sort of names you like (sounds stalkerish, sorry I've namechanged and you have no idea who I am but your dc have brilliant names and you do know who I am). It's going to sound odd I suspect but hope that any future ds is proud of what it means.

Aww thankyou,

our kids do have 'older' middle names, James, Robert and DD has Jodie. All named after family members,

but another problem is that the passed grandads name is the same as MY grandads name and it would be awkward as he would think it was fater him, iykwim

and then my grandad died recently too, and MY family would be pee'd that we used DHs dead GPs name (when he already has a baby named after him) and not my grandads.

it all just seems too much hassle!

Oh yes that sounds like a lot of hard work. Best just to tactfully avoid I think.

DD has her great grandmother's name as a middle name but it fitted quite well as an old lady chic type name. A future ds would be a bit more Amos Philip or Elijah Richard sort of thing (examples, not really the names). They don't sit brilliantly together, doesn't matter though.

Does it matter? I hate my middle name and never, ever use it. It occasionally rears its ugly head when I see it on my birth certificate or passport but that's all.

Obvioulsy it does matter to me or else I wouldn't be posting :)

You only get to name your child once :)

Nobody takes any notice of middle names, I think its nice to use middle name to honour a family member.