Who has the ultimate say in the chosen baby name?

[nancy10]

My dh chose the name for our first ds. I wasn't keen but he really had his heart set on it. At the birth he was so excited I just didn't have the heart to tell him I didn't like it. Soon after the birth I couldn't imagine him being called anything else. Then when our twins came along, I'd already thought of a name before even conceiving and dh chose twin 2's name, worked out we both liked each name. Baby no 4 has been a struggle, our name choices couldn't have been more different. There is absolutely no way I would ever call our baby by my dh's no 1 choice. He quite likes my first choice (and we are using it! so has agreed. I feel a bit controlling but his name choice is probably no 1 on my least favourite names list.
If my dh really didn't like my name choice then I think we'd choose something completely different. But I love my choice of name sooooooooooo much that I would have put up a good fight to call our baby that name.

Me! Dh couldn't get his head round the fact that he was having a baby and refused to have any sensible discussions about it. No that he wasn't excited - it just didn't feel real to him so he kept making up names and going off into fits of laughter. So I finally offered an ultimatum - no sensible discussion, no say in it! Plus, the name mattered to me where it didn't to him. He liked it so was quite happy to go along with it when the baby had actually arrived and he'd finally got that the name was going to be attached to a real person!

In our case DH was very good at saying what he didn't like but not very good at suggesting names he did like! So ultimately we both chose the names, as I kept suggesting names (that I liked) until he finally agreed on one.

DH was convinced our first was going to be a boy and had already stated before we conceived that he wanted to name his son after his grandpa. It's a nice name, so I pretty much went along with him.

I came up with the suggestions for girls names which we then discussed together when in the car. But I don't think DH gave any of them much consideration, as he was convinced it was a boy.

Of course, DC1 was a girl, so it was my choice of name, but agreed with DH.

Am now pg with DC2 and DH is convinced it's another girl, so has now said he's not bothered about naming a boy after his grandpa. Sod's law would now say it's a boy, right? We don't know yet.

The one who really cares the most, love or hate. Generally how we solve most arguments/decisions in our house!

putthekettle: We have been exactly the same DH has not come up with any names he likes but gives plently of opinions on my suggestions! We have not got it down to 2 we both like but different favs so we will see on the day I think

My dh is also really good at not suggesting any names but quick to criticise anything I suggest. His attitude is to wait until the baby's born and see what he/she looks like. Which is all well and good if you have a few names to choose from, but not so good if you can't agree on anything. I also think baby's grow into their names and don't really look like a particular name anyway.

As with others, my DH was totally useless at offering up his own suggestions. I can't believe there are no names he actively likes! However, I gave him a list each time and got him to star the ones he liked and then we whittled it down from there. That way I also didn't have to hear what he thought of the names he didn't star...