second thoughts!!!!

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ccoast · 20/01/2011 15:53

Has anyone ever had a change of heart about the name they picked for their child? I loved the name I gave my daughter but now 4 months on I think I have gone off it. I cant seem to connect it with her if that makes sense and its really anoying me. I daren't say anything to my DH as the name was my choice! Just wondered if anyone had a similar experience and if so what did they do about it, or did the feeling pass?

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sparkleandspin · 20/01/2011 16:09

Does she have a middle name that you could use instead?

Are there any other names you had on a list which you prefer? At 4 months isn't too late to change it, your daughter will not start to recognize her name until she is at least one.

I think maybe you have to be brave and speak to your DH about it, it might make you feel better to have it out in the open.

CharlieBoo · 20/01/2011 19:11

What's her name? I'm sure she will grow into it....but its not too late to change it, but disagree with previous poster about them not recognising their name until 12 months, both my kids were way before that.

OddBodd · 20/01/2011 19:47

I think you have until at least 9 months before they respond and recognise their name. I think you have to bite the bullett on this and talk to dh. U may find as soon as you have talked it through you feel better about it or that you can come to some agreement on changing her name. It's still very easy to do until she is 12 months old.

Lots of people have started threads on here about changing their babies name so it's not unusual really. If you genuinely can't connect to her with this name than imo something needs to be done and SOON other wise she'll be 16 and you'll still be regretting it.

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ccoast · 21/01/2011 10:53

Thanks for all your advice. Her name is Olivia. I loved it at the time and I do still think its a lovely name, just not sure it was the right choice for my DD. With my other two I was so sure of their names and never wavered. Won't people think we are mad if we change her name now? I know my family and friends will. I know I shouldn't worry what people think but the reality is I do.

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sparkleandspin · 21/01/2011 11:13

How about trying out some other names on her. Maybe call her something else for a day or two and see if it fits better.

I do know how you are feeling. My DD is 2 now and it's always bugged me that we gave her a popular name. I recently found one which is much better but it's too late. I obsessed about it for a year and actually started a thread on here about it.

I think 4 months is still OK. You are probably worried about what people will think but it's your daughter and Mummy knows best. They will soon forget.

joelaine · 21/01/2011 19:41

My friend changed her little boys name when he was 4 months old. You can change their name up until they are 1yr by just going to where you registered her birth (i think)after that you have to change it by deed poll. She really couldn't connect with his name and although her husband was a little bit sceptical he went along with it. She is now much happier and settled with her choice, husband loves babys name and baby is none the wiser! Family and friends were all cool about it too! :)

threeinthebed · 21/01/2011 19:52

I changed DS's name at about 5 months. I worried about what people would think too, but noone seemed to be bothered by it in the slightest and I'd be surprised if anyone even thinks about it now. We added a new name to the front and kept the original name as an additional middle name. Speak to your DH :)

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