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Adding middle names

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woodytrees · 12/01/2011 14:14

Hello,

I am thinking about adding a middle name each to my 2 dd's names through the UK deedpoll service. My husband thinks I am being mad.

The reason I want to do it is my first dd has an first unusual name and a family middle name, both if which we love but I am worried that when she is older she may not like her first name (cos it's unusual) and the 2nd family name doesn't go so well with our surname and I'm worried that if I don't add a 'new' middle name she won't have many options should she want to be called by a middle name. It's likely she may not of course! My 2nd dd's name is fairly common both 1st and 2nd name and I think that if we add a name to our first dd then we should add one to our 2nd dd. And I love a couple of names that would suit them. One of them being a family name for 2nd dd.

I don't want to post the names on here in case I get recognised.

So, do you think I am mad?

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GandalfyCarawak · 12/01/2011 14:15

Yes, I do, sorry.

PorkChopSter · 12/01/2011 14:16

Bonkers

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woodytrees · 12/01/2011 14:17

Ha ha my husband was right :)

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CuppaTeaJanice · 12/01/2011 14:19

Can't they just change them themselves by deed poll if they decide they want a different name? Then they can pick a name they like themselves - possibly they wouldn't like your choice of the extra middle name anyway!

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woodytrees · 12/01/2011 14:22

they could do when they are older. they are 4 and 2 at the moment

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SacharissaCripslock · 12/01/2011 14:31

I added an extra middle name to both of my boys names last year (when they were 5 and 2).

So, no I don't think you are mad.

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woodytrees · 12/01/2011 14:33

SC did you talk to your boys about it or did you just do it? Did your husband agree? Please tell me all about it? I really want to do it :)

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SacharissaCripslock · 12/01/2011 14:44

We talked to the boys about it - but in a 'this is what we are doing' way and not in a way that made them think they had a choice. Because they are young they weren't bothered - if they were older I'm sure they'd have wanted to choose their names and I'm also sure they'd have chosen names like Tyrannosaurus and Ben10!

My DH agreed with it and we spent ages choosing the names together.

I'm in Scotland so I think it's different to change names up here than it is in England. Possibly. I might have made that up. We went to Register House in Edinburgh and filled in a couple of forms there and paid about £60 (in total) and then had to go to our local birth, deaths and marriages office and fill in a couple of extra forms then phone up a wee manny at the first place to tell him it was done and then he sent out the new birth certificates.

All done in a day.

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woodytrees · 12/01/2011 14:48

Did your boys ask why? Or probably they were too young? All sounds quite straightforward. If you don't mind me asking what were your reasons?

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SacharissaCripslock · 12/01/2011 14:58

No, they really weren't that interested.

My eldests middle name is Alexander and we couldn't find any other names we loved as much for our youngest so we call him Alexander. So it seemed a bit odd when reeling off their full names to have the two Alexanders - we figured if we added another name to both of their names then it wouldn't be so noticable.

Such a stupid reason - it's not like anyone often says their DCs full names, especially not together. I think we just liked the excuse to go ooo over baby names again.

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woodytrees · 12/01/2011 15:11

Thanks for telling me all about your adding middle names experience, it's helping me :) Another question if you don't mind? Did you feel that you had to explain to other family members?

Has anyone else got any adding middle names info for me please?

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SacharissaCripslock · 12/01/2011 15:27

No, we just told everyone we'd given them each another middle names so they were now called WXYZ and ABCD and no-one has commented negatively on it.

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woodytrees · 12/01/2011 15:31

Brill SC, am going to talk to husband tonight and show him the thread :)

Still want to hear more middle name stories or anything thinking of doing the same please

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woodytrees · 12/01/2011 19:19

Just bumping for more thoughts night time people :)

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KERALA1 · 12/01/2011 19:34

Abit mad. Middle names surely pointless anyway?

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woodytrees · 12/01/2011 19:36

Middle names might not pointless for those that may not like their first name and might like the option of using it instead?

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threefeethighandrising · 12/01/2011 20:32

Yup a little mad, but wonderfully brilliantly mad! You should do it

ALongDecember · 12/01/2011 20:50

I'd just make it known to your DC as they grow up that they should be happy with their name & if they're not you won't be upset if they choose a new one. But you can't hedge your bets any more than you have done- they may dislike all the names you choose!

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