What do you do when you hate your child's name?

[APixieInMyTea]

Ds2 is 8 weeks old.

He was given a name my dp liked and I agreed to it because he really didn't like any names I suggested.

I thought that the name would grow on me but I still don't like it. So much I well up thinking about it.

Don't get me wrong, it's a lovely name it's just not his name if you know what I mean.

For 8 weeks I've been suggesting different names for him that dp as just dismissed saying "he already has a name"

Well today, the baby's 'real' name jumped out at me. It wasn't one we'd really considered before and it's quite popular but at this moment in time I just don't care. I've found his name and it suits him.

I mentioned it to dp and he's still having none of it. I don't know what to do.

I can't say his name out loud, I cringe when I do and I absolutely dread people asking me what he is called.

I suppose there's nothing I can do about it now, but just getting it all out here as dp won't listen.

could you comprimise,maybe have it for a middle name, you could still call him by that.I had a friend who was called by her middle name all her life-people just assumed it was her 1st name

poor you. does your DP realise just how much it's bothering you?

Can you tell us the name and your preferred name? (just being nosy really)

His name at the moment is Arran.

I really think he's a Lewis. I would change it to Lewis Arran so at least the name is still in there.

I know you can change a BC up until 12 months old so I have plenty of time to convince dp but I just don't want to leave it that long and make it more confusing for everyone.

For what it's worth, I love the name Arran and it's on my list for DC3.

Are you in Scotland? I am and Lewis is such a popular name here. Out of 10 boys in my son's P1 class, 3 of them are called Lewis. They're all known as Lewis Surname. I really like the name Lewis, but that has totally put me off it.

Good luck with your dilema!

beautifulblondepineapple

It is a lovely name of course, otherwise I wouldn't have agreed to it, it's just not his name.

We're actually not in Scotland.

Probably just about as far away from Scotland as possible actually. Lol.

I really really wanted to call him Lachlan but it was the name that dp wouldn't even consider.

He's definitely not a Lachlan though.

We were trying to choose something that wasn't so popular but right now, just having a name I like that I can say out loud without welling up would be good.

There isn't an easy answer to this..... My DS2 has an unusual name that has never sat happily with me - however now at nearly 4 years old it is his name, if that makes any sense.

What I mean is I can't imagine him being calledanything else.

I can totally understand that you want to change his name and if it is really bothering you, you need to sit down with your DH and try and make him understand where you are coming from.

Good luck.

Hi Pixie - my beautiful DD is 9 weeks old and I am having the same dilema as you. The issue with my however, is that I chose the name and now I am not as keen. It is a really beautiful name but I dont think it suits her and now wish that I had chosen the name that I was considering that would have honoured a dearly loved family member. We have given her it as a middle name but although my DH has agreed to try and use it, he always pulls a face when he does so. Also I know there are other family members who are not keen on the name.....the whole thing is really, really getting me down

Arran is a great name. Lewis is also a great name. Both have personality. Can't you give Lewis as the middle name?

FWIW I had similar misgivings about DS's name, I was torn between two names and was secretly convinced we should've called him by his middle name for about six months after he was born, but now I wouldn't change it for anything.

I agree with others, give him Lewis as middle name if DP really won't change it. Have you tried telling him exactly how you feel - e.g you get upset, cringe calling it out etc?

I've known people to change their baby name at age 2 - so really wouldn't worry about it. But sooner you can sort it (one way or the other) the better for you.

and duffstuff change the name now if both of you're not happy.

I struggled with my ds's name, but dh didn't want to change it so we stuck with it. I am SO glad we did, he suits his name perfectly, some children grow into their names. I wouldn't make your dh change if he is adament he doesn't want to, but I do know how you feel.

I think you should add Lewis as a middle name, I added another middle name that Dh would have been happy to call ds, had he not already had a name, so I know that when he is older, if he wants to be called that, he can as it is his middle name.....