what would you do?

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long history dd4 is now 7 months old and after much agonising we put felicity cecily on her birth cert on the last day possible . dh has loved the name felicity since i was about 7 months pregnant and would consider nothing else . i agreed to call her this on the condition that if when she was 6 months old i still disliked it we would change her birt cert . 6 months on i still dislike the name not sure why but i just don't like the way it sounds (too sweet/twee possibly). i have many other names i love but dh has vetoed them all since he fixated on felicity .these have included matidla ,martha ,clarissa ,esther and many many others .i love cecily which he says he can live with but he "thinks" he prefers cecilia.
am i being unreasonable to want to change her name ? should i learn to live with felicity ?
what would you choose felicity ,cecily or cecelia ?

Hi

I don't think you are being unreasonable at all. It sounds like you weren't really given much of a choice in the first but to go with Ferlicity. Isn't it suppossed to be a joint decision? Something you are both really happy with?

The problem is that your daughter is now known as Ferlicity to everyone and your husband is going to use this to his advantage in order to get his own way.

All I can suggest is that you keep on at him that you don't feel happy with this name and that you think she deserves a better name seeing as she's has got to carry this name for the rest of her life.

Should you manage to persuade him, its very straight forward to change her name as you have up to 12 months to change on birth certificate. I do feel for you as I know its a really big deal to get your child's name right. Remember you carried her for 9 months and gave birth to her so you want to enjoy her name!!!!!

Good luck!!!!!

Sounds like you've been a bit railroaded into the name - maybe what you feel about the process is colouring the way you see your daughter's name?

Have you thought about using Flick as a nickname? I know some really fun and feisty Flicks (all young adults) and really like it!

I would never call my child a name that I disliked so much!!! not that that helps you!

Fliss, Flick are both cool names.

Felicity is the prettiest of them all with Flick as a nname.

What about Lissa as a nickname?

Cecilia is a nun's name. "Sister Cecilia".

I think Felicity is lovely. I had a friend called Felicity and we used to call her "Flossie".

I knew a Felicity who we called Floss :)
There's also Lissy/ie as a nn.

yes I agree with nannynobnobs - Lissy/ie is a very lovely and cool nn.

railroaded is definitely the word and partly because i'd ended up with on unwanted elcs (baby stubbornly breech) . i was in tears over it the day we registered her but dh was convinced i'd get over it as "it is such a lovely name" in his words .at the time i had got to the point where i just felt i wasn't being listened to . this probably hasn't helped how i feel about her name . she isn't really known as felicity as when asked we still tend to say we are still discussing it a source of endless amusement to our rl friends and most people just call her liitle one .

Felicity Cecily is an awful lot of ity/ily's. I think it is time you talked to your husband and said you had this agreement and he is now going back on it. DH chose all our children's names except 2 middle ones and I probably was the least bothered out of each of us.