Anyone managed to convince DH to use your name choice?

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For my DC2 I have only one name I like, DH initially was neutral on it and offered his choices, then I thought OK if he is neutral I should be able to convince my choice, but later on when I again mentioned my choice he wasn?t too keen at all.

I posted our name choices on MN a while ago and MN preferred my choice, which I genuinely think is a beautiful name.

DC1 was named a name which we both agreed on.

Middle name is no option, we are not having any.

This will be our last child (for health reasons) so DH could not make it up for DC3.

And I don?t really want to agree on his relatively plain & boring name choices.

If digging deeper, DH has not been very supportive through my pregnancy, and I am generally ?keeping all corners of the house?, so I feel like I have more ?rights? to decide (although I am not going to tell him this).

I am usually quite soft and willing to compromise but choosing the name I like is really, really important to me.

Any positive similar stories?

Mine chose Carla (no way!!!) and Kirsten.
I kind of went along with Kirsten; I knew it wasn't the right name but I didn't hate it.

After the birth I said 'I'm calling her Rowan' and he agreed. I think I got him when he was overwhelmed by it all.

I just kept on saying it over and over (DH is even convinced I used to whisper it in his ear when he was asleep - I didn't by the way ) So when DS was on his way DH seemed more than happy with the name choice, but it was only several weeks later he said 'oh I like his name now, it suits him'!!!!
But, I am quite bossy, and I am a teacher, so there were many names I didn't want that I think he gave up suggesting!

Nope. My dh choose all the names, and I agreed.

It is very important to choose a name you like, but it's unusual to call your child your most favourite name ever because you both have to agree.

i persuaded dp to go with my choice for ds3.

then i felt bad, then i really regretted it. i think i only wanted the name so badly because i thought i couldn't have it (he had been adamant we weren't using it)

i spent months being quite unhappy over it and considering changing it.

i would say go with one you both like

Not sure what to advise. Dh & I nearly fell out over naming dd2. We had several lists, none was right & she wasn't named for about 6 days. I finally hit on a name I liked, he wasn't keen, wanted another. I wanted to cry when I thought about calling her any other name. In the end we managed to compromise on a similar name which is actually perfect.

It's hard when you can't agree. Can you come up with a short list & wait till the baby comes along?

My husband said "no way" to my girl suggestion for my second baby. As we were convinced it would be a boy I didn't worry about it although friends randomly told him it was a lovely name.

When they put her on my tummy and we realised she was a "she" after all I said "we'd better think about girl names" and he said "well I quite like your suggestion actually".

DD2 is called a name I suppose I 'chose' but we went for it because it meant 'wished for child' and she was highly unexpected. Had pregnancies 2, 3 or 4 been successful and resulted in a boy we'd have called him a name I love and DH thinks is okay. He couldn't think of any boys' names he preferred and after the rather traumatic and dramatic ending of each of the failed pregnancies (one of which nearly killed e too) admitted he'd agree to almost any name I came up with. I'm not suggesting that as a tactic though!?!

DD1 was given a name we agreed on (although I'm less keen on it now ). With DD2 I had a name that I really loved and was convinced would work. DH wasn't keen. However, when we found out at the 20 week scan that she was a girl, he was so overwhelmed and teary (he wanted another girl) that he suggested we give her the name I'd suggested. I did the whole "are you sure" palava for a minute or two and then took it as a done deal and 'phoned everyone to tell them the good news.

I say get 'em while they're emotional.

DH knows his place, and left the final decisions to me! (Actually, he liked my choices, just wouldn't ever admit it).

Oh gosh, doesn?t seem to be easy does it?

I did that thing of waiting until mthe birth, thinking he'd let me have anything after all the pain. I was wrong.

After seeing what I went through with the birth, my husband told me I could choose whichever name I wanted. But I went for one I knew we both liked, because I didn't want to take advantage of him, and because I believe that both parents should really love their child's name.

I never doubted my ability to go with my choice for a minute! I wouldn't have chosen a name dh hated but I always felt that if we couldn't agree I would always have the final say. But it never came to that because dh is a rather laid back type. Opposites attract

I set my heart on DD's name when I was about 5 months pregnant (we knew she was a girl).

DH wasn't sure at first but whenever we talked about names, he couldn't think of any he liked. I would pick others out of the book and suggest them but then (truthfully) say that while it was nice, I didn't like it as much as X.

Then one day he just said "Well lets use X then" and we did

She's 9 months old now and totally suits her name. I love it and so died DH.

We agreed on DS's name BTW and I love that too.