Would you do this? Or is it not worth the trouble?

[TotorosOcarina]

When I had DS1 I gave him my dads name as his middle name, as in my Dads family every firstborn son has the same name. But my dad had all girls so he couldn't pass his name on.

With DS2 we decided to give him DHs Dads name as a middle name becasue it seemed 'fair' and it went really nicely with his first name.

So when DD comes along we didn't plan to extend this further, but we could NOT think of a middle name to save our lives. DH suggested my little sisters name and it sounded really cute and my sis was only 16 and would be thrilled so DD ended up with that.

Thing is, I have 2 other sisters and DH has 2 sisters. I think my mu was also dissapointed that both the grandads got a name used but when it came to DD, she didn't. But the Grandads had really 'timeless' strong names (think Henry) and my mums is a bit dated (think Tracy) and I really didn't want to use it.

Well now DC4 is on the way and if its a girl I was thinking of calling her Lottie.

Trouble is, thats DHs sisters shortened name.

I am not naming her after her, but thats how it will be seen, especially with all the other kids having a family name.

So would you use that, possibly leaving all the other females int he family a bit 'meh' at us 'choosing' HER name.

Or would you just break clean and find something completely new?

And PS is there any other names that Lottie can be lengthened to apart from Loretta and Charlotte?

You're just going to have to have a lot more children, I think.

How about carlotta, letitia could work, loretta.

I also think some Christine's shorten to Lottie, so maybe christine (or christina)...

Lol, no, definatly no more after this.

Hmm, not keen on any of those.

I can't call her Charlotte, we have a Charlotte already and shes put me off it, lol.

Oh, if you already have a Charlotte you can't have a Lottie too, that would be awfully confusing.

How about Lettie instead of Lottie? Could be a nn for Juliette or Violet (or Violetta), in fact for plenty of things.

We have a Loretta AND a Charlotte!

Lovely names but adding a Lottie to the mix too really would be a step too far IMHO.

I'm confused, is this DC 4 or 5? DS1, DS2, Loretta and Charlotte

Juliette / Juliet nn Lettie would work nicely wiht your other DDs names though. Or, is it that you want all 3 DDs to have names that can be shortened to Lottie?

Sorry no, this is DC4.

Loretta would be an auntie (she lives abroad though)

And charlotte is a distant relative but I wouldn't use the name because of her.

We don't have daughters called that already - these are relatives.

We have 2 sons and our daughters name is nothing like Lottie,

am myself now

Lotte (pronounced Lott-a) is a name, common in Germany. Of course it also fits with Lottie.

Loreto?

Break clean. Sounds like a shedload of hassle to me.

I agree with rockbird.

Don't use your mums name either unless it is a name you adore.

Choose something different to avoid upsetting anyone.

I think it's perfectly ok to choose names that you love and lovely of you to be so thoughtful about your family. They should be chuffed that any of their names get a look in. If any get miffed, it's a bit childish. Choose what you love. They will love the new baby and it should all be eclipsed by him/her. Good luck.

Otillie?

If you love Charlotte, I don't see the problem if it's only a distant relative with the name. Depends how often you meet up.If the same were true with a more unusual name, like 'Pearl' I'd hesitate. But, as Charlotte is very widespread anyway, I think you could get away with it. My sister named her son William, the same as our cousin, but not after him, just because she loved the name,and nobody blinked an eyelid.

Personally, as is the trend nowadays, I'd go for a less widespread name, because I'd like a future dd to be the only one in our circle, but tradionally that has never been the case, particularly on my mother's side. The same names being passed on from generation to generation for hundreds of years! (just been doing family trees)

I think Violet is a lovely name (dd) with a similar sounding ending. Not quite as 'safe' as Charlotte but it seems to be coming a lot more popular now - everyone loves it! How about Lettie?

Liselotte/Lieselotte - a name of germanic orgin that can be shortened to Lottie.

Otilline and Otillie are lovely.

Oh and congratulations on the pregnancy!

So you would be calling your daughter by her Aunt´s nickname?

I think I´d go for something else tbh.
But then I don´t really like Lottie.

I'm a little confused, you say that you wouldn't use Charlotte because you have a cousin called Charlotte, but you would use Lottie even though it's your SIL's name. Personally I wouldn't call a child the same thing as a close relative at all. Middle name fine, first name no.

Other long versions - Carlotta and possibly Clotilde/Clotilda.

I know and Ottilie who was known as Lottie - but when she got to secondary school she decided she wanted to be Tillie - so maybe you could have that option if Lottie became too confusing.

nooka, i wouldn't use charlotte because I don't like the woman, its not the fact shes a relative!

I think I'm going to just start afresh!

Call her what you want to and tough if your family don't like it.

My DS has 2 middle names, after my dad and DH's. DH said if my dad was there it wasn't 'fair'.

We are expecting a DD and while I would love to name her after my nan, who brought me up, it isn't going to happen. She has an old fashioned name that wouldn't go. I don't want to name her after me as my 'mother' picked my name and I don't want to carry on something that she chose. We are going for something completely different that isn't in the family, just because there are lovely names that go with out first name.

If MIL or anyone else doesn't like it, too bad. Its not their baby.