Surnames

[islandbaby]

Hey

Just wondered what all you other unmarried mums are doing about surnames.

I feel weird about giving my son the surname of his father instead of mine, but he is from quite a masculine culture (latin american/polynesian) and he feels strongly that his son should have his surname.

I don't really like double-barreled names, and I don't have any desire to take my partner's name just for the sake of convenience.

I'm not sure what the solution is, but I'd love to hear what other people did.

I have two children by two different men (20 & 7) ...they both have their dad's sir names. The younger one has my sir name as his middle name (luckily a VERY popular first name)...it does all get a little confusing especially when we all have to say our names together (doctors & holiday bookings!) I am glad they have their dad's names ...it was more important to the dad's then it was to me.

It's not something that really worried me and I prefer DP's surname to my own so would rather our children have his name than mine.

However there are some quite idiosyncratic names on my father's side of the family so DS has got a great middle name and I am hoping that DC2 due in Nov will end up with another name that represents my family.

Marge I understand what you are trying to say, but in our circumstances neither of us wants to get married despite having been together for over 10 years. Mostly to do with disliking the contrivances and crazy expense of modern wedding ceremonies rather than either party not loving the one enough which is what you assume is the main reason for couples not marrying.

Put your own sur name in there. Or, start off with your sur name with the understanding that if you go on to get married the child can take the father's sur name. THIS way around is easy, but it is next to impossible to add your own name in later. Please put your own name in. I didn't and I regret it.