second son

[nookies]

Hi
I just had another baby boy which is great but unfortunately the only name my husband & I both like is already our first sons middle name. I know that makes us sound very unimaginative. Would it be terrible to use it again? My husbands family think it really doesn`t matter & we should go ahead, my family are horrified. what do you think?

Nookies

Go ahead and use it, and then give him another very different name as a middle name.

There's usually a bit of a split on MN over this question.

Personally, I wouldn't, due to the risk that DS2 could end up feeling like he's got a "cast off" name. How old is your DS1? Too old to change his middle name to something else? If he's still very young then that could be an option.

What is the name - maybe we could suggest something similar?

Given that there are thousands of lovely names out there, I'd really try a bit harder to find a name that is unique to your second son - I think he deserves it .

thanks for your message. when you say there`s usually a split- has this been discussed before??

Think I have seen it discussed before too.

When we were having DS, DH wanted to give him the same name as the cat. I told him to think again as it showed an extraordinary lack of imagination.

Think you are in the same category with this one sorry

I think you need to find a new name & it would be a bit weird if they both shared a name.

Can you tell us what the name is so we can offer some suggestions.... nothing to do with me being nosey at all!

Use a different first name. Both of my boys have the same middle name which I think is nicer.

I agree - give your son's their own names. There must be another name you both like?

What's the general sort of name you're thinking of, or what's the name?

Personally I wouldn't we had 3 possible names for DS1 lets say A, B and C. DS1 got called A B Surname so when we had DS2 we didn't even consider C as this would be a 'cast-off' from DS1 if it wasn't good enough to be featured in DS1's name then how could we use it for DS2! I think I would feel the same in your situation the name wasn't good enough to be your firsts sons first name you used it as middle name so why is it hood enough to be second sons first name?

good obviously not hood!

To be honest I wouldn't use it for reasons already said on here. It is hard though, no matter how many thousands on names there are out there, I can think of one 2 or 3 that I would use for my children (ds already has one of them!) and probably only 1 that me and dh both like so it's not as simple as just finding a new name that u both love I know.

One of my friends has got:

ds1 called Nathan Daniel
ds2 called Daniel James
ds3 called Jacob Nathan

NO kidding. They are only 8, 5 and 4 at the minute but they seem to think it's cool that they all have names that are the same iyswim? Hasn't been an issue for them so far.

hi
thanks for your comments. it certainly isnt down to any lack of effort on our part, weve trawled through loads of books & sites we just don`t like many names. my main hesitation is for first ds who may miss out as he wont really be able to fall back on his middle name.