Would you use the name anyway?

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Just got off the phone with my best friend, who has been in floods of tears.

She is 36 weeks and had had her heart set on a name since she found out she was pregnant. She wants to call her DS after her grandfather who she was incredibly close to.

Her sister in law (husbands sister) has just given birth to a DS and has named him the name my best friend was going to use.

She knew the special meaning of the name for my best friend as my best friend had discusses names with and I was there when my best friend said she was going to use it to her sister in law.

It is really not a common name, so wwyd?

She is distraught about it because she had her heart set on this name since she had found out she was pregnant.

If it was my favourite name I'd still use it.

What did she say to her SIL? I would have said, 'Oh, you do know that is also our name as I told you...As it has special meaning for me I'll still be using it.'

I know they'll be cousins but if it's so important, then tough really. 30 or 40yrs yrs ago it was very common for cousins to have the same name.

However, maybe your friend could relegate the name to a middle name?
Does she definitely know she's having a boy?

no one has dibs on a name,anyone can use it.if it has such significance then friend should use it.but cannot legitimately lay claim to name

Yes definitely a boy - her husband has said something to his sister about it and apparently her response was : "my baby was born first so its your decision really"

I think it was more the fact she had told her and then she used it anyway.

what a fuss about nowt,both sil need to grow up

I told her it was all going to be fine etc, have even suggested names which are similar names, mean the same thing.

She just texted, they are going to use his surname instead. Its used as a first name aswell so its a good compromise I think.

Use the name. If SIL doesn't like it - tough.

not that set in name if a duplicate put her off.assuming ownership of a name is a sure course for upset.given at any time someone can use it

oh what a shame, ok understand people saying "cant keep a name for yourself", but really if you have said to your sil thats the name you are going to use then they chose it especially after the conection i would be upset too.

all they names out there and they have to chose sameone.

glad your friend has managed to think of another name that will remind her of her grandfather.

I'd say go ahead and use it. She loves it and it has meaning for her, so she should IMO. :)

I think she should still use it personally.

maybe folks arent that original about names!hence why names pop up in clusters and popularity.and no no one should be of expectation that no one else neighbour/sil/milkman can use their name.as i said dong so is sure path to aggro

She should use it anyway.

My cousin asked what we were thinking of calling DS (we were pregnant at the same time) and then used one of the names I'd told her we were thinking of. You might not have "dibs" on a name, but if you're pregnant, hormonal, and finally found a name or two that you actually both agree on, and someone else close uses it, its a pain in the arse!

no milk in the fridege is a pain in arse.same name isnt worth raising an eyebrow about.as no one has moral high ground on it.no one can legitimately lay claim and demand use.expecting to be able to do so is sure route to upset