I want to name possible DS after someone, DH isn't keen. WWYD?

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My DS has 2 middle names as I wanted to name him after my dad and DH said he wanted to name him after his dad as well so we had both. I originally wanted to name him after my grandad who died about a week before I got pregnant and I never got to tell him obviously, but DH wasn't keen on that idea.

I am pregnant again and if it is a boy, I said I would like to name him after my step grandad as he is the one who brought me up with my nan and has done so so much for me, and me and DH over the years. It is a 'normal' name, nothing ridiculous etc. DH didn't look overly keen on the idea and just said "why does he have to have a middle name?"

I want to name him after my step grandad, it makes no difference to DH and I don't know why he is being funny about it.

I don't see the point in naming him after my grandad now as the whole point before was because I got pregnant as he died which was over 3 years ago now.

Would you stick to your guns on this one seeing as DH doesn't actually have a reason for being difficult about it? I see it as a nice way to show my step grandad how much I appreciate him.

Your potential DS might feel left out without a middle name.

My elder sister never gave her three middlenames (not because she didn't want to, but because it never occured to her to do so).

Her youngest DS and DD (in their teens) moaned when they found that my DS had 2 middle names and so did their cousins.

Unless your DH has something specific against the name I'll stick. It might be that he does have something against the name just doesn't want to admit it.

We ended up with two middle names as we couldn't decide between 2 names when DS was born and so used both.

I can appreciate that it would be a nice gesture to name him after someone you care about.
Our son will have my husbands fathers name as his middle name. My father in law is lovely but i really don't like his name unfortunately. I am still going to go along with giving our son his name though as his middle name as i understand my husbands motives for wanting it (his Dad has been a wonderful father and after 4 grandaughters thids will be his first grandson).

Middle names are hardly ever used, except maybe for filling out forms. I think the only time anyones ever even heard my middle name must have been at my christening !

When trying to persude your husband i would push the point that the name will never be 'used' as such but that you would really apprecaite it if he'd be ok with it as it would mean a lot to you and be a really nice gesture.

One of my son's has 2 middle names, my ex thought i was silly for giving him 3 names but things had broken down between us by then so i went ahead anyway.

Unless someone has a real reason or dislike of a name i can't see the harm in a child having a middle name only one parent really wants.

Good luck x

I think of middle names as 'backup' in case the DC doesn't like their first name. For that reason alone, if you live somewhere where it's culturally normal to have a middle name, then I think it's a good idea to provide your DC with one.

Well, that could serve as an answer to 'why does he have to have a middle name at all' :o

What if you said to your DH, 'I think the kid will feel left out without a middle name - which names do you like?'

Good luck!

So one DS gets two family middle names, and becomes the Safety Deposit Box of the Family Heritage, while the next DC gets none?

If you gave your DS two middle names, then your next DC should have at least one, and if there seems to be a family name thing going on, the next child will need to have a family name. Children get really resentful about really small details like that. This is something they could be expected to come to blows over one day.

I agree if it's no skin off your DH's nose, why is he so opposed to just doing it and putting it behind you both?

Never thought of how the potential DS would feel about not having a middle name and DS having 2. Good arguement for me when DH says "why does he need to have one."

There is no cultural thing but I just want to have my step grandads name as he has done so much, it wouldn't be a backup name either.