Am I wrong?

[craziedaisy]

Please help me decide if I am making the wrong decsision. My daughter was born 9 months ago and I just couldn't decide on a name. In the end I went along with my husbands choice. Ever since I have regreted the decision. The name is pretty but I am fed up with there being so many around and also that everyone shortens it. I would love to change it but everyone except for my mum is horrified at the suggestion.

What do you think?

I think if you really really dislike it and feels it doesn't suit her then you should talk about it with your DH and perhaps consider changing it. But do it soon.

Everyone else will get over themselves soon enough -- if you and your DH are in agreement on the change, and especially if your mum supports you, go for it.

Can you retain the name officially but start using a nickname or middle name instead?

Do it. Don't spend her whole life regretting it.

Does it have no abbreviations you like? Do you like her middle name?

Change it. You have twelve months to do so. You'll be much happier afterwards. Let us know what you decide.

So long as your dh agrees, change it. But do it quickly - she will know her name already and it will be unsettling for her if you leave it much longer. But be careful not to make your dh feel bad about it.

Quick do it while there's still time! this feeling won't go away. I'm still here on these boards 7 years after feeling that my dc1 has the 'wrong' name. A nice name, but the wrong one for her.

Change it to a name you really love. She has her whole life ahead of her and will not remember the first name. Everyone will quickly get used to the new name. It happens more often than you might expect.

But her father chose her name....craziedaisy can't just change it!

your not alone i could have written this post alough dc8 is only 5 months . her name is a lovely name everyone loves it except me . i cringe when i hear her name and i feel close to tears every time i say . if your not happy with it i'd definitely talk with dh and try and change .
interesting what valium says i keep hoping i'll grow to love her name but obviously this cant be guaranteed
remember shes your baby as much as dh's and more so than anyone else who may be horrified

If you and your dh agree on a new name, then go ahead and change it. You can do this until the child is 12m.

But -

When our first dc was born, dh and I gave him the name we had chosen together. My ILs bullied me into only ever using the nickname they liked, which was not the one I wanted to use. I was very upset about this. After all, had I wanted to call him by that name I would havd given him that name. I wanted to call him thr name that I, his mother, had chosen.

Ds now does not like to be called by his full name or any other nickname. I, however, havd grown used to the name everybody uses for him, it suits him now, and it feels comfortable to use. His full name seems - odd, when applied to him.

So you do get used to names. I vaguely regret what happened with ds's name, but I learned from the experience and stood up for my choices with the rest of our dcs' names.

I agree with the others that provided that your DH is happy to make a change, then go ahead and do it! I don't understand why others are horrified by the idea.

I did this - changed DS's name at about 5 months. I kept the original name as an extra middle name (so I just added the new name to the front). No one was horrified; in fact no one really seemed to think it was a big deal at all. If you think you will regret the name forever, just change it now while it is straight forward to do. I think it will be more complicated if she has already been christened by the way (check with the registrar if so), but still possible by deed poll

oh, and there are heaps of threads about doing this - so I agree with zenon in that it is more common than you might think

Ive wondered about this aswell in case I have name regret. Im very indecisive. Does anyone have any idea how late you could change a baby's name without potentially giving them an identity crisis!?

Mine is over 12 months old and Im thinking of changing my son's name. I know its crazy but I cringe at his name even though everyone else likes it. My friend was also pressured by her dh into the name of her daughter and still regrets it and she is now 5 years old. I have been told though that you would to say on official forms they were known by another name. I hadnt thought it would be relevant if the baby hasnt even used the name officially eg.for a passport/bank account etc. Does anyone know?

You can change it before 12 months. After that both names will 'remain' your names in that the old name will be a 'previous name' and this is indeed sometimes asked for when filling out forms.

I feel for you. DH and I had a name chosen for our DS all through the pregnancy. Then when he was born he just did not look like that name. I came up with another name which wasnt ever even in the running but ds just looked like this name. After about 2 weeks we name him the new name. He does suit it. BUT there are SO many other children around here with the same name- of all ages! I cannot believe I gave him what seems like the most common name in the world. it really bugs me. ds is 15 months now.