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felicity or cecily help major naming dilemma

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almostinvisiblewoman · 09/08/2010 23:31

long story dd is now 5 months old we took 6 weeks to register her . dh wanted one of the above but didn't dislike my choice i really didnt like the way his chosen name for her sounded and made that quite clear. we could find no other compromise names other than arabella which neither of us felt was completely right .all other nanes dh vetoed . dh insisted on his choice as his family and our other dcs preffered it. i drove to register her in tears wanting to call her something else but dh felt i was being daft .we put down dhs choice as her first name my choice as her second and arabella as her third.now i know this is irrational as both are nice names but when i hear one it just doesnt sound/feel right .
i dislike her first name so much i continue to call her little one or little person(percy) or recently have started to use my preffered name as my petname to avoid saying the other name. i dread hearing her name called by hvs etc or if someone asks her name i cringe when telling them. my dh knows and has known how i feel but is not prepared to discuss it.
she is a beautiful sweet delightful happy little girl whom i adore and feel really awful that thinking of her name makes me really upset/guilty.
is felicity nn cecily or cecily nn felicity too weird/confusing for her and others.
opinions please on both names and ideas as to whether it's possible to grow to love a name . we had considered calling her cecily -felicity or felicity - cecily but they're mouthfuls put together .have purposely avoided stating which name dh prefers and which i prefer to avoid influencing people.
unlikely to have another dc so no point saving one for next time. we have other dcs who we agreed on names either prebirth or very soon ie within minutes afterwards

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proudfoot · 09/08/2010 23:48

Both very nice names IMO! I hope your DH's choice grows on you - I do think eventually you will see it as your DD's name and learn to love it (especially since both names have a similar style and sound I think - it's not like picking one of these and having to lump Neveah Sparkle-Mae or something!) I do think it would be confusing to use them together as a double name.

What is it that you don't like about your DH's pick?

Shame that he wasn't really willing to discuss it even when he knew you were upset about it :( He probably thinks there is really no need to discuss it now as she is already named!

MoreCrackThanHarlem · 10/08/2010 00:05

Felicity is nicer imo
Although Cecily is ok, a bit try-too-hard iykwim

Love Arabella
The name of my favourite Enid Blyton character

Please spill- which one is your choice?

MoreCrackThanHarlem · 10/08/2010 00:09

And having your parents use two completely different names is a bit odd imo
sorry

I'd pick one and stick with it
I wouldn't give my baby a name I felt so uncomfortable with
What if you continue to hate it?
Changing baby's name at 7 would be far more problematic

Poohbearsmom · 10/08/2010 01:08

I definatly prefer Felicity and flick for nn is so cute for a little one and cool as a teen! I would stick with her name as it is its a name its not her character its just her name but she will grow to know you dont like it if you dont either change it (which i doubt ye will since she's 5months and everyone else loves the name) or you let it grow on you and you love it not for it but because of who it belongs to :)
my mil named ds2 and it took me a long time to love his name but i feel so madly in love with him his name owns my heart now :)
i always planned to use a nn of my ds's name which i thought is sweeter but havnt for a long time now... Hope ye can work it out and all be happy

nooka · 10/08/2010 06:07

To me the two names feel very similar, so hopefully your dd will grow into her name and your feelings of unhappiness will fade. There's nothing wrong with using a nn that bears no resemblance to either name - my two spent most of their babyhood as Wriggle and Limpet Grin or how about using a nickname like Cece that's a bit of an in between?

issy123 · 10/08/2010 20:43

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SherbetDibDab · 10/08/2010 20:54

I don't think it matters which name we prefer, that's not what this is about.

Do you feel that everyone's had a say in the name of your baby except you.

It is possible to change your babies name, or to start using a middle name. I'm not saying that's what you should do but I do think you need to persuade your dh to at least talk to you about it and acknowledge how you feel.

MummyLovesSadie · 10/08/2010 22:01

Just for the record, I think your dh was being quite selfish & hurtful for not taking your feelings about the name into consideration. Imo no couple should set about naming their baby when one side is dead against the chosen name.

I think the best you can do is to find some sort of variation of the name & call her that. I really hope you grow to love the name.

Btw my fave out of the two is Cecily. Smile

almostinvisiblewoman · 10/08/2010 22:05

sherbetdibdab and issy123 youve hit the nail on the head i think it is more about feeling that i had no choice /no input into choosing her name . also she was born by elective cs as she was breech something i hadn't anticipated or wanted and had spent the 2 weeks before she was born upset and stressed trying yo persuade drs to allow me to go for a vaginal delivery to no avail .thus by the time she arrived i really felt no one was listening and really gave up and accepted dhs choice as i was tierd and felt i'd been sidelined out of her birth and was fed up and felt no one was prepared to listen to how i felt.
while i dont think im suffering from pnd i still feel upset by the manner of her
arrival .not sure it really helps moving forward with her name

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dexifehatz · 11/08/2010 16:20

I have a Felicity Faith aged 17 months so I am a little biased! We call her Fliss or Flissy and she really is a happy little soul.Cecily is nice too,CeCe as a nn is quite good but Felicity is better!I had always wanted the name Fenella if it was a girl but our eldest daughter really liked Felicity.I'm glad we picked Felicity in the end and kids do grow into their names.

ElephantsAndMiasmas · 11/08/2010 17:57

That sounds like a horrible time OP. Is she called both/either of these names at the mo? Or 2 totally different names plus Arabella?

I love Cecily, it's a cool unusual name. Cecy is a lovely nn. All very pretty and classic and nice. Felicity = a bit prissy for me.

But whatever we think you need to talk to your DH. You can't have your little girl bearing a name you can't stand. It's not fair.

almostinvisiblewoman · 11/08/2010 19:41

elephants at the moment i call her cecily my favourite dh calls her felicity his favourite we did try felicity - cecily but that was way too much . we tried arabella but that just didn't feel right (too grand) although ds age 3 calls her this adding to the confusion. i have tried really hard to accept the name felicity but only realised it wasn't working when somebody pointed out a month or so ago that i never use her name (felicity)always calling her little one etc.
there is nothing obviously wrong with the name it just doesn't feel right possibly too prissy.she was my sweet cecily before birth and at that point dh had said he liked it but then changed his mind later.

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ElephantsAndMiasmas · 11/08/2010 23:40

Does he object to Cecily as much as you do to Felicity? (I wouldn't be able to accept my DD being called this either)

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