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Dilemma with SIL over boys name.

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sassy34264 · 21/07/2010 23:12

Sil recently (may) had DS. She decided on the mane Lewis whilst pregnant, when he was born James and the 2 weeks after he was born changed it to Simon. He was registered as Simon James.
I am 32+5 with twins. We had a name picked for a boy and a girl from the beginning and our boy was to have James as a middle name. (no problems so far) However, when SIL called her little boy James and then changed it to Simon, my DP said he realised he really liked the name James and if we were to have 2 boys he wanted our original choice and James. I agreed. (James is a big family name on both our sides).
When i visited MIL on thursday she said SIL was on about changing Simon to Lewis by deed poll. I made the mistake told MIL our change of plans: by Monday Simon had become James again. (MIL hated the name simon)
Mentioned it to Sil and she acted like she didn't know (can't tell whether she did or not).
I told DP over the phone last night (he works away) and he is adamant that if we have 2 boys we are still going ahead with James.
I have said your parents can't have 2 grandsons with the same name, but my mum just pointed out that people call their children after themselves, so some people have a son and a granson/daughter with the same name....what's the difference?
Problem is SIL may keep changing (she is 18yr old) or may change cos we're adamant and then there might only be 1 boy, so not an issue.
What do you think? (It has taken us this long to agree on a 2nd boys name, so not easily changed)

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CharlieBoo · 22/07/2010 13:53

I agree with valiumsingleton. If SIL has James, then it would be strange for the grandparents.

As much as I agree with the poster who said about a friend picking a name when pregnant and wishing she'd have had it, family is different. Friends change over the years, but your SIL and your nephew are always going to be in your life. I just wouldn't want my son to have the same name as his cousin anyway.

duplotogo · 22/07/2010 13:58

We have a big family and my brother has the same name as a cousin and two other cousins have the same name as each other, several uncles have the same name (mixture of birth and by marriage), my DH has the same name as one of my cousins, and my daughter has the same name as another cousin. My son has the same middle name as my nephew - his cousin.

Honestly it is not nearly as confusing as it sounds! There is Jo's Jim and Bill's Jim and Big Jim and Paul's Elizabeth and George's Elizabeth and so on.

lilmissmummy · 22/07/2010 14:09

My ds' name is the same as his cousins name and the two boys absolutely love the fact their names are the same. It has never been a problem even though their surnames are the same too!

The grandparents call one by his name and one by his nickname.

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