I have colitis. I've been in flare for probably 2.5 years now. I'm steroid dependant, 15mg of Pred to make life manageable. Nothing bloody works. Humira did briefly but I declveloped antibodies and i've now flown through all the other biologics, most recently Stelara, with no luck with any of them. This week I've been told if it was going to work it would have by now, I'm basically out of options. It's surgery now.
IBD nurse has referred me to talk to the surgeon, don't know how long that will take or what the waiting list will be like for the surgery.
I'm half fucking terrified, I've never had any surgery before, and half relieved. That although it'll probably be not great, at least I'll be able to leave the house without the very real fear of shitting myself in public 
But I wondered if anyone here has had a j pouch done and would talk to me about it? Any tips for questions to ask the surgeon? Or aspects to it I may not realise? (for instance Facebook has taken to advertising coloplast bags to me - thanks very much... - and there was a bit about a woman who couldn't wear her favourite jeans anymore because of where the waistband sits.) I'd never considered clothes being an issue in the interim period that I will have a bag. So any things like that that came as a surprise to you when you had it done?
Thanks.